I know I can’t do much about this, just looking for some support really and wondering if anyone else is in a similar boat. I had a tricky upbringing, lots of love and material things but also lots of not so good stuff. I feel conflicted about my parents even though i do know they did their best.
My mum contacts me a lot. I get called most days. I hate it. She’s pleasant and nice but I just feel irritated by it. I do enjoy seeing them and spending time with them in small doses but I really like to have my privacy and when you’re in touch everyday it feels stifling. The irony is when they are busy you cannot get through to them. She will often call more if my dad is away, for example.
I have asked lots of times to speak less. I’ve been polite and said it’s hard to speak in the day etc. It just gets ignored. Sometimes she will stop a bit but a few days later it carries on. She’s not elderly, only in her fifties. I know one way is to just not answer but then I wonder if something terrible has happened. I’ve told her this and asked her to not call as it gives me anxiety but it still continues. I’m just sad about it I suppose. I honestly have tried not answering but I have to get back to her eventually otherwise I get more calls and texts asking why I haven’t replied, I guess because I always do. Just fed up and feel really suffocated and have done for years. Maybe I’m being a shit daughter? I don’t know