to think that in 10 years time I probably wont even remember who these freaks are? but I will still go round for them..

[hobalob]

btw I have namechanged, due to paranoia.

I went out for a drink with some friends, only to discover that most of our views are worlds apart. on soooooooo many things. I dont want to go into details, incase they post on here, but one sticking point was wanting to send their kids to private school so they learn proper manners and dont mix with local kids (they arent that bad imo). and charity shops are for poor people. And I lost count of the numebr of times they mentioned how much they earnt.

I moved here a couple of years ago and find it hard to make proper friends, though I have lots of acquantances. But I am friends with a few people from the groups i go to with ds. So I was really upset when they turned out to be so different from me.

But a good friend of mine (from where I used to live - the other side of the country) said she cant even remember the people she met through her ds's groups.

So on the one hand, I am upset that the only 'friends' I have made are really not the people I would choose to be friends with, but on the other (more drunk) hand I think - in 10 years time I probably wont even remember their names.

am I just evil? and am i even more evil to continue to go round theirs cos I dont know anyone else round here?!?!

When the only things you have in common are your kids, you meet people completely off your wavelength.

I've had the same experience as you hobalob, a lot; people questioning our old cars, charity shop clothes, etc.
It's their problem, their judgements , based on their little worlds.
I pretend not to take it in, and just carry on if people judge by outward appearances.
The ones worth keeping up with are the ones who eventually see you for you, and the others probably judge because deep down they're insecure about their own lives.

Sometimes tho'if I've had a drink, and am feeling brave, I question ar argue rather than keeping quiet. If it's something like a political view i heartily disgree with.
Why should everyone have the same values and ideas? It's bloody boring.

Some people "don't do diversity" as a friend of mine said once.

thanks everyone! you made me feel more sane and much happier. I think I got a bit sad that I dint fit in very well with people who I thought were friends, I didnt realise how different they are to me in their views and values - something I see as important in a friendship. Then I felt two-faced for thinking that I will still go round for them anyway, as I don't know anyone else reoudn here!
But they are nice people, regardless of their views. and our dc's get on well, so that's a good thing.
and like many of you said - I might meet people on my wavelength through these people anyway.
plumandolive - that's what I tend to do, but unfortuantely, these people don't really drink!! I feel the need to go out and get lary, but these arent the friends to do that with

UnquietDad, I was thinking and typing with a French accent, just to match the pauvre.

Educate me, what should I have said? Would the phrase noble poverty do? I don't feel noble when I'm ogling other people's houses mind you

Genteel poverty I think. But I liked the pun. Well, I thought it was a pun...

I thought I was talking complete sense. It's probably too late to claim I was being very clever? :0

About diversity.. Where I used to live in Kingston-Upon-Thames was the most homogenous ghetto I've ever lived in. Everybody was the same; white, university-educated, took The Guardian, recycled, had a Boden catalogue in the recycling bin. You get the picture. Contrary to all my prior assumptions, now that I have moved to Ireland, the other parents at my dd's school are Polish, Irish, Muslim, black, white, University lecturers, hairdressers.. Who knew? After I've been Kingstoned, I found them all a scary at first. I got used to the fact that people are allowed to be different now!