Please help me make sense of this

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I met a man OLD around 2.5 months ago and things were going great. We were having about 2 dates per week. We waited to have sex and then when we did it was amazing. He was saying and doing all the right things but at a nice pace, I didn't feel love bombed or anything.

However, suddenly over the past few weeks he started to distant himself. It's to the point now that he barely responds to my messages and actually a couple of nights ago he was actually quite snappy with me. I have no idea what happened and he says everything is fine and won't have a discussion with me. Haven't seen him now in a few weeks as whenever I tried to arrange a date he was vague and wouldn't commit. I know it's done.

But what the hell happened? I know I'll be okay but I must admit I am hurting and it's such a horrible time to be hurting over Christmas. How can some people just turn off their feelings so quickly and without warning? I know rationally it's not something I've done, but it sure feels like it is. I know I'll never get the answers I want from him so just trying to make sense of things. I feel so sad and confused. Where did it go wrong?

It's funny because thinking back, he text me after the last date and said that I hadn't been 'as sexual' since our last break. To which I replied that I wasn't a performing monkey. I wonder was it just sex all along?

He's probably found someone else OP. I imagine he's carried on chatting to people online and is now going elsewhere.
It hurts, but I would formally end things and start to move on.

It was a new relationship and not all relationships will continue to develop. I am sure it is nothing you have done and it doesn’t mean it was only about sex either. It sounds like he has just decided that it isn’t something he wants to pursue, be nice of him to say so of course, but I think it is just that.

he text me after the last date and said that I hadn't been 'as sexual' since our last break

What was "your last break"?

I'm afraid if you met him 2.5 months ago and he's been blanking you for a few weeks then it's over.

I know it's hard but we often don't really find out what happened. Usually it's that they met someone else. That's NOT a reflection on you or your value or attractiveness. It's just about your compatibility. Block him and do something lovely for yourself and for someone else.

Definitely a player.. come across many on dating sites in the past.. woo you have sex a few times.. move onto the next one.. you're probably not the only woman he's seeing... he's just keeping you on the back burner.. l stopped with the OLD .. it was always the same.

Last break? How many were there in 2.5 months?

I meant last date sorry

Some people just can't keep up the pretense of being a nice guy for very long. That's why there is the saying,marry in haste, repent at leisure. Anyone can appear to be nice for a little while.

Well you said you've been seeing him 2.5 months, but you haven't seen him for a few weeks.

2.5 months is a few weeks.

Sorry OP, but he sounds like a dickhead who has got what he wanted and wants to move on to his next 'conquest'.

He sounds immature.

So glad you called him out on this. 'Performing monkey' 😂.

Ignore him, don't block him so that when he does get back to you, and he probably will, he'll see you've received his message and it'll piss him off he's getting ignored.