Hi
(I’ve posted here about said exDH before) please be nice as I’m really struggling with my mental health just now.
ive been living apart from my husband for about 9 months and I’ve finally made the decision that I don’t want to make it work (that’s another story) up until the last week we have been both seeing the kids on almost a 50:50 split so we could both have time to ourselves etc. Long story short, I’ve had to stop overnight stays previously as his house isn’t in the best condition- he’s cleaned it etc and the kids went back BUT of late he’s literally just (IMO) hit rock bottom and the girls (6&4) are saying the don’t want to go etc. The air in his house is bad, it’s dirty etc so of course I listen to my kids and they are no not going back. I have told him I’m happy for out of the house contact until he makes his home suitable. I’ve sought advice also and the school raised it to SS as a concern. So I’m doing what is required of me! Anyway, he’s not seen the kids for ten days, no texts, calls - absolutely nothing. I’ve tried many times to contact him. He’s reading and not answering. Throughout our separation he’s made it clear he wanted us to remain a family and wouldn’t be interested in anyone else etc. I’m filing for divorce as I just can’t do this anymore. He is lazy, no job etc. I’m studying work p/t etc. loads more to it than that. I’m starting to think he’s just going to turn his back and walk away because he’s not getting me too. Given I withdrew the contact in his home, AIBU to be annoyed at this? Any advice?