To think maybe he’s being insensitive or just bragging/doing it on purpose?

[Evviiee]

I’ve been speaking to a guy for a while and I’ve known him years but just started talking again. He knows I’m not a single parent with a toddler and we’ve basically been discussing all sorts and he knows I’m working part time and on a low income and just about getting by.

Every time we’re messaging he keeps telling me how much money he’s spent on things or he posts photos of his expensive trainers or clothes. The latest one is that he’s told me he does all his food shopping in M & S and never goes anywhere else. I have no issue with how he spends his money and he does well for himself but I’m just not sure why he keeps bringing this up in conversation about all his money when he knows I don’t have the disposable income for the things he does. Does it sound like he’s bragging? He talks a lot about how much things he owns cost and that he collects designer things and goes out for meals in expensive places and things like that. We do get on in other ways I just don’t know if he’s trying to make me feel small or just being insensitive as he knows that this isn’t how I live?

I think probably nothing would make my fanny clamp shut faster than a grown arse man sending me pictures of his new trainers.

My ex was like this. Put me off him. There was other reasons why I left him but the bragging about money was one.

Either way, he sounds incredibly boring and tiresome. Throw him back.

Does he like you?

He maybe trying - very poorly - to impress you...

If he isn't get shut, honestly life is too short for someone to reflect your current difficult situation negatively back at you. He isn't a friend, hence why I think he might actually like you....

I wouldn't find that attractive at all particularly if I didn't have much money myself

He is trying to impress you. He maybe has a low opinion of himself and feels this is the only way. Just tell him money doesn't impress you, you like him for himself (if you do)

Some people place a lot of value on things with monetary value.

If someone mentions the cost of things constantly, I find it really boring. I have noticed people like that tend to be friends. Must be so dull - imagine all the boring conversations…

My ex was like this. Always wanted to make himself look like Mister Big, when in reality he owed money left right and centre. He wasn't an elevenerife type of character, more actually TWELVEerife. Seriously it was embarrassing being out in public with him when he started talking his Billy bullshit.
Take my advice and run for the hills!!

I doubt he's deliberately trying to put you down

More likely (1) he's showing off, (2) trying to impressive and / or tactless

He’s a twat, I’m suffering secondary embarrassment from his cringe comments,. I don’t think he is trying to impress, I think he is show off …. Look at how well I am doing … trying to impress would be to but you flowers, take you out.

Sounds boring as fuck

I would maybe think twice about him he sounds awful I couldn’t have someone like that in my life personally

He sounds like a narcissist to me, self aggrandising to compensate for a very fragile ego. Please Avoid!

If he's bragging and trying to make you feel small, surely not someone you need in your life?
If he's that insensitive, do you need that either?
If he's trying to impress you because he is interested in you romantically... are you at all interested?

Sounds about right to me.