AIBU
Ok be gentle as you can ladies (and gents)
Got out of a very abusive marriage last year and my god it’s been a horrific rollercoaster since the ex left.
Long story short, ex cannot see our child due to abuse and hasn’t seen them in nearly a year.
On my child’s birthday, my ex and his beloved family (mum, sister, brother, etc) got nothing for our child. Obviously when we were together they would go crazy over our child and buy them anything and everything so I was shocked they sent nothing.
I’m on the breadline (they all know that) and even though my ex talks the talk of being a ‘fantastic father’ he provides the bare minimum and doesn’t ever see if our child needs anything (our child has a medical condition and never checked on that either). Like most single parents I can’t provide everything for my child and so they unknowingly go without a lot of the time. The food bank help, along with over charities.
There was a head to head after our child’s birthday where exs wonderful mother and him tried to take my child off me in public. I called them out on a number of things including, not getting our child anything for their birthday.
Queue Christmas being next week and my child has received two small gifts from their aunt and Nan on my exs side.
Great they’ve finally sent something but it’s quite literally the bare minimum, one of the presents doesn’t even fit as it’s a clothing item.
I’m so f**king annoyed that they’re taking their stuff out on my child. I don’t care if they don’t like me but why do they do this to my child? I probably sound so ungrateful but not once have any of them checked to see if our kid needs anything (which my god they do! Why do they grow out of clothes and shoes so quickly?!!)
I have proof of severe abuse from ex and I understand that his family are going to side with him but why punish our child?! They’ve done nothing.
It’s as if my child doesn’t exist anymore to them.