To ignore this mum

[Gonewiththewind123]

Trying to work out the best approach to an issue.

My DS is 6 (Y2) and is in a small friendship group of 3. I’ve consistently had reports from my DS that another (the same) child in the group has hit him or pushed him or grabbed him. I know the mum although we’re not friends as such. I’ve told school directly a few times. Their take each time is that they will do what they can but that they still want to be friends and having watched they only see what seems to be fairly normal behaviour for their age and stage. They also said I might only be hearing one side of the story. They reassure that they will deal with but it doesn’t seem to help.

How can I stop my DD playing with this child? I’m currently ignoring the mum and child on the way to and from school to try to minimise interaction. AIBU.

How old are you? Ignoring the mother and child. What a ludicrous stance. Talk to her and find out her side, running telling school like you’re 5 and ignoring is not the way to handle this.

Sounds like normal kid behaviour unless you think it's something more?

I'd encourage the kids to manage their own conflict. Does your DD still want to play? It sounds like it

What the school are saying is that your son and the other boy are larking around together, probably when they are supposed to be doing something else and that their behaviour is silly rather than violent and unkind. I imagine they would like nothing more than them staying away from each other. At our school we don't stop children playing together on the say so of their parents. Or at all really.

It's up to you to tell your son what you want him to do at school.

Ignoring her on the school run is absolutely ridiculous.

Ignoring the mum and child is not the right thing to do. This does sound like fairly normal behaviour for this age. The school are aware and keeping an eye on it. You should tell your child to play with other children when this other child is being unkind. Plus encourage a wider friendship group by inviting other children over for a play