Difficult relatives - should I have them for Christmas

[Mari34]

Should I just not invite my difficulty in-laws for the holidays? Or make an excuse?

Isnt it a bit late to be asking this? What does your husband think?

Blimey, it's a bit late.

Also are we talking 'come over for Christmas lunch and a walk' or 'come and stay for a week?'

In general I think people should make an effort for family, including inlaws.

What's difficult about them? Are they trash-your-home-and-lock-your-family-in-the-basement difficult or are they drink-gin-at-lunch-and-comment-on-my-parenting difficult?
We had a crazy elderly cousin in my partner's family who would get on the gin and every year would start anti-immigrant rhetoric (I am European) over christmas lunch. One year I simply decided I was going to partake in gin drinking and make a few friendly stabs at her. Never had an issue with her since. Found her quite endearing by the end of it.

Don't invite them. I never see anyone horrible at Christmas, life is too short.
Inviting them over is like rewarding them for being arseholes.

Very late in the day to be making arrangements for Christmas isn't it? Easy to make an excuse though as its last minute.

It's probably mostly up to your husband as they're his relatives unless he's expecting you to do all the prep?

I'm on the side of "don't bother inviting them" but maybe with more info on the situation I'd change my mind.

With roast potatoes? Yes, unless you're vegan.

Totally depends on why they’re difficult, how long you’d need to put up with them and whether it’s all on you or you can busy yourself for an hour somewhere else while they’re entertained by your OH.

But no, generally I wouldn’t have anyone in my house who has been awful to me whether it’s Christmas Day or Doomsday!