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AIBU?

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To feel broken in every which way

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Whatdididoto · 19/12/2023 05:11

Nights like this destroy me with the baby up multiple times and now my older child has reverted to waking at 5. I know the usual advice re Grow clocks which just don’t work. I know it’s too early but not sure how to make him sleep. It’s just completely shit. I’d actually rather the night wakes than start my day at this time.

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OwlWeiwei · 19/12/2023 05:18

I feel for you. Mine did this too and it broke me. Can you try bringing them into your bed for another hour or two? (Didn't work for me but in case...)

Do they nap in the afternoons? could you have a siesta?

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Whatdididoto · 19/12/2023 05:22

Well, I can’t because the baby is still in with me but even when you do it makes little difference as he just talks incessantly. He could do with a nap since he’s had such an early start but no chance unless we’re in the car. Then he’s horrible when he’s woken up because he is still so tired. Honestly, I think my life before night have been too easy.

He was so horrible this morning I walked out and after twenty minutes screaming (I have gone back in but every time so unpleasant I came back out) he’s quiet so I’m hoping desperately he’s gone back to sleep.

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Doingmybest12 · 19/12/2023 05:27

How old is your oldest?

shearwater2 · 19/12/2023 05:28

I would give him a big hug but say it's not time to get up yet, and then plug him into a film or cartoons or looking at a book, or playing quietly until it is.

MumChp · 19/12/2023 05:29

Ask the dad to step up and help.

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Whatdididoto · 19/12/2023 05:30

Yeah he’s just screaming @shearwater2 and hit me when I tried to hug him and screams over any nice instagram mummy things. Hoping he’s quiet because for once he’s actually gone back to sleep. He’s 3.

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sleepdeprivedma · 19/12/2023 05:31

I feel you op my 10 month old has been up since 4:30 and doesn't like
Like he's going back to sleep anytime soon.
Hope you're okay x

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Whatdididoto · 19/12/2023 05:34

It’s bloody awful @sleepdeprivedma

I will be delighted if ds has gone back to sleep but I’m too scared to check 😂

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CheshireDing · 19/12/2023 05:35

Yes it’s horrendous, I feel for you but unfortunately have no great solution

We went through a phase of our no eldest waking at 2am, definitely nearly killed DH and I, or we nearly killed each other !

Grow clocks didn’t work. I suppose tv could work for you in the hope he falls back to sleep 🤷‍♀️ it’s hideous though

Sending tea and crumpets to you

shearwater2 · 19/12/2023 05:36

Whatdididoto · 19/12/2023 05:30

Ah shit, yeah, it's really tough. I thought he was a bit older for some reason. Take it easy, this too will pass.

NightisdarkandfullofterrorsGOT · 19/12/2023 05:47

I feel for you. I’m awake too, not with a little one but because I’m having a hard time with my teen and can’t sleep. I swear kids will kill us one way or another.

Wannabegreenfingers · 19/12/2023 06:36

I feel you. My youngest didn't sleep through until she was 6. Both are now older and will lay in where they can. It broke me at the time, but there is light at the end of the tunnel.

Ellamaelucyolivia · 19/12/2023 07:00

My eldest, even when she finally was sleeping through as a late toddler, got up at half five every day for years. She only stopped around 6 years old, I think. She is nine and sleeps to the alarm now and gets up at 10 on weekends. I have a baby now though, so starting it all again. The half five thing is so difficult. I was working full time, so exhausted after a full week of work. She wouldn't stay in bed with a tablet or get in with us. Me and DH would take turns going downstairs with her. It was tough but we made it through.

Dynamoat · 19/12/2023 07:04

My 4yo has been waking early unless I put him to bed in a onesie, like a proper fleecy one. I've realised he kicks off his covers at night so by 3/4 he is freezing if just in pajamas (we don't have heating on) and wakes up for the day. In a onesie he sleeps until 6 at least.

Jonahseyebrows · 19/12/2023 07:15

Oh I feel for you. Mine did exactly the same, baby up hourly, 3 yo up at 5. It was just hellish. it will get better, honestly it will. Hang in there and get as much help as you can to rest when you can.

This isn't forever it's just for now and it will change. I wish I had good advice for you, about the only advice I can think of is don't waste energy stressing about how tired you are if you see what I mean, or how long this will last. It will get better.

cristokitty · 19/12/2023 07:22

What time does your DS go to bed?

Upallnightsndallday · 19/12/2023 07:23

Feel your pain 4 month old & 2 year old - 2 year old is like an energizer bunny & decided he doesn’t need sleep at night and lives waking early
gave him his Christmas present a Toni box early so he can sit and listen to stories when he’s awake or doesn’t want to go to bed yet, but is in his bedroom
No words of wisdom, but hoping it gets easier soon. XX

violetcuriosity · 19/12/2023 07:24

I know this isn't helpful right now but he will soon be at school and this period will be over. Just get through any way you can. A 3 year old and a baby is a type of hell you can't understand unless you've done it. Sending you loads of love. It will pass, you will sleep again xxxxxx

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Whatdididoto · 19/12/2023 07:29

It is helpful - i actually cried shen he woke at 5.

He went back to sleep until just now, I can’t believe it!

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