Background : DD is fussy as fuck and has a history of barely eating, but only up to age 5/6.
She is now 12 and at secondary and has packed lunches 2 days a week. Me and a friend (we've been friends for years so she knows the "background ") were talking and she was moaning about how disgusting her DD's lunch box gets with leftovers being banged about all afternoon, it's a pain to clean every night etc. I said I had told DD ages ago that she could just throw the rubbish out at school and saves me a job. All chill and lighthearted.
She got very cross/upset and told me I'm irresponsible, I should be keeping an eye on her eating habits especially at this age and with DD's background. I was quite thrown and just said it makes sense I guess but it's only two days, DD tells me what she ate, she has a hot dinner every night and her weight is fine. Again she called me irresponsible and naive and she hopes I won't end up regretting my lax attitude. I got pissy and told her to get over herself and that I appreciate her concern but she's my kid and lazy or not, I made a parenting decision and that's that.
She left in a huff and that was the end of it.
AIBU? Should I still be checking DD's lunch box? It feels pointless as well since she could throw stuff out anyways or hide it.