Are interracial relationships with larger age gaps viewed as more predatory?

[Libertyy]

Just something I’ve been wondering based on anecdotal experiences and social media, maybe there’s some truth to this. I know a 19 year old white woman with a 27 year old Pakistani man, same with a 21 year old Pakistani woman who is dating an older white male, people are convinced both of the men are grooming the women simply because of the age gap. Whereas I know a 20 year old man with a 41 year old (both are the same race) and not as many people (the same people) are accusing him of grooming the young lad, I also know a 20 year old woman who I used to date with a 36 year old and everyone is happy for her or they’re more relaxed about it. Has anyone else noticed this?

these days most of the time any relationship can be debated as having an inbalance, if its age gap related eg various celebs, seems there is no set group

I'm white British, my partner is Indian. I'm older than him.

Never had anyone mention either of us as predatory. That said, we're pretty equal in terms of net worth, so not sure who would be seen to be the predator!

They’re all large age gaps which suggest a power imbalance towards the older partner. What on earth, in terms of lifestyle, life goals, financial security etc, does the average person in their late thirties - early forties have in common with the average young person barely out of their teens? I’m betting more people think the older partners in those scenarios are a bit weird and groomy even if they aren’t saying so out loud.

I have had some backlash when dating white women but noticed my ex’s exes didn’t have the same I did. I have never really seen it in cases where the white woman was older though, unless the Asian man had obvious vulnerabilities or was quite young looking.

I do agree with you as I’m thinking the exact same about all of them tbh, I don’t know if it’s to do the stories circulating social media but I’ve noticed there does tend to be more comments made with interracial couples. In my experience I’ve found people are definitely more vocal with these types of couples but have the whole “let them get on with it” mentality with others

Mine isn't young looking, or vulnerable. If you were looking at it from an Indian perspective, he's highly eligible. Upper class Mumbai family, went to the US for post grad study, high earning professional career, and he's stunning in my eyes - and to Indian standards - tall, very fair, attractive, perfect teeth, the lot.

He just thinks I'm awesome. He's not wrong 🤣.