To be worried we’ve made no real progress with potty training?

[Shtickman]

Probably stressing when there is no need to but started training DS last month at 2 years 10 months. 6 weeks on and no progress at all with poo, not ever done one on the potty. Wee had been more successful but you still have to tell him to go for a wee, if not he wets himself. He doesn’t tell you he needs to go.

I feel like I’m doing something wrong but I am not sure what? Any advice?

I potty trained both mine at 2.5 y.o, but both seem to have the same issue with pooing. As soon as you put them on the loo, they just can't go anymore. We tried very hard, but in the end gave up. I know now that there's just no point stressing. DS would just hold it in until he got his night time nappy. He finally started going in the toilet at way over 4. DD, on the other hand, still wears a nappy sometimes, but only because if not she will just poo in her pants. She also sometimes waits for her night time nappy. I'm also wondering how it'll be as in a few months she will be turning 3 and starting nursery.

Thanks for the replies. The toilet is a non starter unfortunately. He just keeps messing around with the sink.

So - I am a bit reluctant to just bin everything we HAVE achieved, as he is weeing on the potty but only when told to go in, he’s never volunteered the information that he needs to go. He poos in his pants and sometimes says ‘I’ve pooed’. I’m just a bit worried I’ve gone about it the wrong way. I literally just started to get him to sit on the potty and praised him when he had a wee.

I would also recommend the 'Oh Crap' method. No harm trying that for a couple of days over Christmas to see if he makes progress, being naked helps them understand the process a bit more clearly. If not, wait a bit longer.

This was exactly where we were in October when our paediatrician flippantly suggested going back into nappies.
The right reward system switched her round. The pom poms work for us as they are brightly coloured and 10 fills the jar so it looks full. Nursery are on board too and she's excited to put them in the jar at the end of the day.
We started when she actively stopped pooing on the potty and stood up so she could poo in her knickers. She has had 1 miss in the last 4 weeks in October we have 1 in the potty. Have a play with finding a clear and visual reward over Christmas

you will become poo obsessed try and pre empt the poo and take him before he goes .

No one is poo obsessed

Thanks for the tips. I keep seeing Oh Crap suggested but I don’tike the naked part if I’m honest. I could understand being scared to poo but it’s as if he doesn’t realise he’s doing one u til it is too late!

I was teasing you 😄

I keep seeing Oh Crap suggested but I don’tike the naked part if I’m honest

Why don’t you like it? With both of my DDs, we put dresses or T-shirts on them but no bottoms which really helped. This was only whilst at home or with grandparents.

My experience of potty training is that absolutely nothing works until it suddenly does.

I used BLF and then Oh Crap (but be warned about the Oh Crap book, it made me feel like I'd failed my child by waiting too long!), and then chocolate rewards, and ticking off 'dry days' on a chart, buying special big kid undies.. You get the idea. Tried everything.

Stubborn child just one day decided it was happening and had zero accidents since. To add context the timeline for us was:

2 yrs 5 mths: started 'training'
2 yrs 7 mths: went back to nappies for a few weeks as nothing working
2 yrs 8 mths: started again
2 yrs 9 mths: nothing working, tearing hair out, child is doing this on purpose I'm sure of it, pass the wine...
2 yrs 10 mths: it clicks, no more accidents, dry day and night how did that happen