To wish all SEN families a merry Christmas?

[SpudleyLass]

Knowing that Mumsnet seem to despise us?

That sounds like bait however having seen threads recently which have been very derogatory towards ND children, it feels necessary.

My wish for the New Year is for people to appreciate how awful SEND provision is

Very merry christmas all.

Ive also noticed the endless stream of variation on the idea that sen families are bankrupting councils.

Peace and goodwill

I found lots of school mums to be beeatches, and my son was relatively 'normal', cannot imagine how intolerable they are if your child is perceived as somehow different!

Some school mums appear still to be at school themselves, caught in the cool beeatches gang.

The costs of education SEN are undoubtedly higher in many cases, but a caring society doesn't then turn on those who need extra support, or at least it shouldn't.
Alas we live in a society that's been stripped bare, financially and in other ways, by tory rule in part - misdirected blame gets them off the hook.

Merry Christmas and thank you for this thread. To read some of the comments on the TA’s present thread last night was truly heartbreaking and there seems to be a shift on MN for seeing us and our children as parasites sucking on taxpayers money.

Happy Christmas to you all! Have fun, keep calm! Adhd daughter is hyper and having lots of meltdowns since breaking up from school, it's really hard work and exhausting. She didn't fall asleep until gone 11pm last night. X

I'm looking forward to no years about going to school from ds5. Also I have got him a vibrating exercise plate for Christmas and I'm really excited about it. My NT dns will scoff and say it's weird and SIL won't be much better but I don't care. Ds is a sensory seeker and it's his favourite thing at the SN gym we go to. He lies across it and turns the vibrations up to the max so his teeth chatter. He is going to love having one of his own.

Merry Christmas to you all.

I commented on that thread@User2346 because I was so shocked - nobody has bothered to reply of course. TAs who 'only' support SN children don't deserve presents apparently, in the eyes of the parents.

And it is 'nice' middle-class parents who fancy themselves liberal and benign, who can be the worst. I have never got over how my DS was treated by other parents at the Scouts group he belonged to - in an affluent middle class area.

A merry Christmas to you all.

@elliejjtiny how fab! I hope he has a ball with it

I just want to qualify my last post slightly. I didn't mean to imply that Mumsnetters without exception don't support or empathise with SEN families, I know that a lot do as is evident from this thread alone. But there are so many people who display attitudes against those with SN which I don't think should be tolerated when they show up here.

Oh wow, can you link this please? My Dd would be in heaven.

Happy Christmas.

I'm hoping that everyone manages to have some fun times over the Christmas holidays despite all the difficulties we'll all be dealing with at the same time. 🎄

Merrily Christmas fellow Sen mum's. I'm hoping to set up my forest school businesses over the next few years and am hoping to try and cater to those who education is failing (my background is education so I have a good headstart)

Am starting a thread about how I could cater to your child/be inclusive for your child's Sen on Sen boards so please drop me a message if you have any ideas.

Merry Christmas all. ASC little boy here. Once nursery breaks up I'm in for a routine broken meltdown most days. Looking forward to being out and about to assist him though. Let's hope the rain holds off.

My four year old suspected asd has been kicked out of the nativity today :( But trying to get past it

@notanothernamechange12 🍷💐to you and to all of you on this thread. Xxx

Thankyou so much, it's been hard reading some of these recent threads. 2 autistic kids, 1 with with adhd the other has complex medical problems. We've bought a trampoline for living room to survive the build up to Christmas and arriving today are my stepping stones to go with the massage mats for a sensory obstacle course. We had to buy a sensory den in the summer but its to cold in the winter so storing the Christmas stuff in it and thinking outside of box.

I’d very quickly find myself unable to give them as much as a mince pie or a polite nod, what wankers.

💗

We did the same a couple of Christmases ago- trampoline with sensory stepping stones, a swing, a peanut ball and a wobble board all in the living room- it’s an absolute life saver. We have added a skateboard too now.

Merry Christmas 🎄 everyone. ADHD disabled mum here with adhd/asd+pda/chronically ill child.

Just writing this in between clearing up vomit because he has a raging fever. I’m hoping he has absorbed enough of his medication before vomiting.

Peace and good luck to everyone- remember our Christmases are as special as everyone else’s, even if they look different sometimes.

The fact that just 57% have voted YANBU says it all. A majority, but not a resounding one. So apparently 43% think it is unreasonable to wish SEN families a happy Christmas and to state that such families face hostility on this site.

That tallies with my experience irl where a significant minority of people have caused us a lot of grief. I really feel for those who have posted on here about the challenges of caring for their children. I posted recently about the realities involved in looking after my disabled DS; someone evidently complained as a trigger warning was placed on my post.

Aww - it does get a bit easier after a few years - and then you hit the young adult phase and realize that all your efforts to get the best for your SEN child has meant that you're now on the career/work scrapheap.

But hey ho, just a new phase, life carries on and a Merry Christmas to All.

Thank you all for the responses.

Truth be told - I was a little afraid of returning to this thread in case of certain comments.

MN has been such a help to me and my family in certain ways over the years but certain attitudes also can't be ignored

I wish you all a Merry Christmas again and best wishes for the New Year