It’s my SIL 40th birthday today and hubs wants to send her £100 as a present
it was my 40th in May and I haven’t had so much as a card from her.
even worse IMO was that she has not done a thing for our daughters 3rd birthday no card no visit no gift. SIL has no other niblings for context there is only our daughter.
we have always made an effort for her and her 4 children. I used to try and arrange fun days out for us all . We would take the kids on individual treat days etc but since Covid this has all fallen away.
i have stopped trying to forge a relationship as my message thread with her is full of me suggesting days we could meet or telling her when we are free and response is always I’ll let you know … then crickets.
i always organise the presents so this is the first time hubs has had to think about it.
He said he feels bad as she spent 75 on tickets for hubs to attend an event for his birthday. Note she didn’t see us with a card or this gift either it was sent by email literally days prior to the event occurring which was months after his actual birthday.
this gift itself irritated me as involved us having to travel 3 hours to get to the location with our daughter and I wasn’t even asked if the event or date would be suitable. Hubs suffers from severe MH issues so it wasn’t the most appropriate gift in the first place and in the end our LG was sick so we couldn’t go.
aibu for resenting spending a chunky amount on someone who basically only acknowledges her brother and not his wife or child?