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AIBU?

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It's another parking one

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Ratfinkstinkypink · 16/12/2023 19:17

Parked up in a small market town today, I drive a Ford Custom van as it is a wheelchair adapted vehicle as my child is a wheelchair user and needs to travel in his chair. I parked at the end of a roadside parking bay with my rear wheels just on the double yellows so I could access the ramp to get the small person in and out of the car without the risk of being boxed in (the ramp needs 3m to be able to lower it and get him in and out safely, there is a big sticker in the back window asking people to leave 3m behind the van so we can get access). Popped into a couple of shops, came back to find a car right behind me on the double yellows with no chance of getting the ramp down (even if I had pulled nose to tail to the car in front there wasn't enough space). There was a woman sat in the car so I spoke to her and explained that I needed access to get my little one in, she was apologetic but explained her husband had the keys so she couldn't move it. Instead she called him and asked him to come back, he did so but was incandescent with rage that he had to come back to move his car. I tried to explain but he couldn't, or wouldn't, see it from my side. His argument was that I should park in a blue badge space and not inconvenience others (I couldn't, the market was on in the market square which is a carpark for the other 6 days of the week). I don't think I was BU but he clearly did.

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Hankunamatata · 16/12/2023 19:22

I'd be tempted to carry cones and stick a couple behind the car. Obviously he was an ass who can't read

Laiste · 16/12/2023 19:23

He was parked on the double yellows?

Well that makes him in the wrong no matter what else was going on.

The bollard idea is a good one.

FatherJackHackettsUnderpantsHamper · 16/12/2023 19:23

YANBU at all - he's a nasty idiot.

Blue badge spaces, when they are available, are there as an option to make disabled folks' lives a little easier, if appropriate and convenient; they aren't a place where they need to be 'stored away' so that able-bodied people can continue to enjoy their full privileges completely, without having to share public places with those who have much less privilege.

Laiste · 16/12/2023 19:24

cones not bollard! 😆

Hoardasurass · 16/12/2023 19:24

Well if he was parked on double yellow lines he's lucky he didn't get a parking ticket and is just pissed at having his crappie parking pointed out

Strictlymad · 16/12/2023 19:25

and he is entitled to park on a double yellow because???? I know you are with a blue badge but he was parked illegally and inconsiderate of your needs. Not a nice person sounds like!

Allofaflutter · 16/12/2023 19:25

So he was parked illegally? And had the brass neck to have a go at you? Arsehole.

Overthebow · 16/12/2023 19:26

he wbu for his nasty response and also parking on the double yellows. But tbh I probably wouldn’t read a sticker on a car and if I had parked legally wouldn’t think twice about parking close to you.

MrsClatterbuck · 16/12/2023 19:26

Of course he was bvvvu plus he was totally parked on double yellow lines so was parked illegally. Deserves to be reported. As a bluecbadge holder you would have been OK.

geckofrog · 16/12/2023 19:27

You're fine. He shouldn't be parking on double yellows. Blue badge spaces are for you if you want them they aren't somewhere you HAVE to park if you or someone in your vehicle is differently able like some sort of parking segregation.

Sirzy · 16/12/2023 19:27

Unless he has a blue badge - which I’m guessing he doesn’t. He was parked illegally so it’s as simple as that.

i would also raise with the council the issue of the market meaning no disabled parking facilities. They should make sure something is available

Alarum · 16/12/2023 19:27

Firstly, big up to the diagram, love it.

You are not unreasonable. He was on double yellows and it’s perfectly reasonable to assume no one would park directly behind you.

I’d be embarrassed and apologetic if I was him, and can only assume he was incandescent with rage because he’d knew he was in the wrong and didn’t like getting called out on it.

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Ratfinkstinkypink · 16/12/2023 19:27

Parking attendants are rarer than rocking horse poo so there was little to no danger of him getting a ticket. I am new to having a vehicle with a ramp as until the last couple of months we've just had a blue badge and a regular car and I am still getting my head around having enough space to do what we need to do.

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Laiste · 16/12/2023 19:28

tbh I probably wouldn’t read a sticker on a car and if I had parked legally wouldn’t think twice about parking close to you.

Brave of that poster to admit that, but it's prob true of a lot of people unless the 'sticker' is a massive one taking up most of the back door. Cones and a bigger sign OP.

ohtowinthelottery · 16/12/2023 19:29

So he was parked illegally on double yellow lines behind you? In what way did your parking legally inconvenience him!!

I'm afraid it won't be the last time it happens. I used to drive a WAV for my DD. It happened to me a number of times. A friend also had it happen to her and had to wait an hour for the culprit to return.

In our town, I could park on the road in restricted areas free of charge for 3 hours but always ran the risk of this happening, so instead I had to park on the car parks and pay (only concession was an extra hour free with a blue badge).

HermioneWeasley · 16/12/2023 19:29

He’s a cunt

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Ratfinkstinkypink · 16/12/2023 19:32

MrsClatterbuck · 16/12/2023 19:26

Of course he was bvvvu plus he was totally parked on double yellow lines so was parked illegally. Deserves to be reported. As a bluecbadge holder you would have been OK.

Edited

Should've said, we have a blue badge (he didn't) so I can do what I did.

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Ponderingwindow · 16/12/2023 19:35

if you go the cones route, I would add a sign to each one explaining the purpose. There are far too many jerks in the world who will be attracted to someone blocking off space and try to mess with it. Possibly knowing its purpose will help.

PuttingDownRoots · 16/12/2023 19:37

Facebook currently thinks I should follow You Park Like A Tw4t.

That deserves to be on there more than most of the photos on there...

AgnesX · 16/12/2023 19:40

Overthebow · 16/12/2023 19:26

The stickers are quite visible and state that the user needs space for wheelchair access. I'm inclined to think yours is a miserable attitude towards people who have a genuine need. Most of these vehicles are parked in a way that access should be a given as it is.

Anyway, the driver in this example wasn't parked legally and was a complete arsehole.

Overthebow · 16/12/2023 20:24

AgnesX · 16/12/2023 19:40

Anyway, the driver in this example wasn't parked legally and was a complete arsehole.

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No I just genuinely wouldn’t notice it, not on purpose just life is busy and I don’t tend to read things on other peoples cars as have other things to think about. However, I also wouldn’t park illegally on double yellow lines so this particular situation wouldn’t happen.

Americano75 · 16/12/2023 20:32

Imagine being this much of a cunt.

Youngman1267 · 16/12/2023 20:36

Brilliant diagram 👏👏👏
YANBU- he's a moron

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