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PLEASE HELP

21 replies

722747jusueik · 16/12/2023 18:15

I'm posting here for traffic.

I think my husband is having a mental heath crisis and I'm not feeling safe around him. We've got 2 kids in the house and I have nowhere to go.

He's out on a walk at the moment.

Is there any number I can call for mental health crisis that would come if needed like an ambulance kind of thing and get him admitted immediately?

I'm in England.

Please, please help me!

OP posts:
KateyCuckoo · 16/12/2023 18:15

999

OCDmama · 16/12/2023 18:16

Call 999. They will send police. If he's judged a threat they will call an ambulance.

Do it now.

Poufpastry · 16/12/2023 18:16

I think this is when you dial 999 for the police. Stay safe Op.

shieldmaiden7 · 16/12/2023 18:16

Phone the police and tell them everything you've posted here.

MatildaTheCat · 16/12/2023 18:16

Call 111 for advice or 999 if you are in danger.

best wishes

icelollycraving · 16/12/2023 18:17

999? Tell them you have children in the home and that you are not feeling safe and take it from there. It’s not always as simple as what you’re hoping for though,

beetr00 · 16/12/2023 18:17

https://www.nhs.uk/nhs-services/mental-health-services/where-to-get-urgent-help-for-mental-health/

If you just need to talk, any time of day or nightFree listening servicesThese services offer confidential support from trained volunteers. You can talk about anything that's troubling you, no matter how difficult:

If you're under 19, you can also call 1111 0800 1111 to talk to Childline. The number will not appear on your phone bill. These services will only share your information if they are very worried about you or think you are in immediate danger.
christmasbunny · 16/12/2023 18:18

How is he behaving that makes you think he's in crisis? Call 999

Lunab18 · 16/12/2023 18:18

Please call 999, they can assess if police, ambulance or both are needed. They can direct him to the mental health crisis team if needed. Please keep you and your children safe.

Lovemusic82 · 16/12/2023 18:20

Hope you are safe OP, is there a family member or friend you can call to come over?

If you are worried about your safety then do call the police. If he’s that unwell they will sort out wether he needs to be sectioned or put things in place so you are safe.

Feellikedancingcrying · 16/12/2023 18:28

What happened exactly?
I feared for my partners mental health and my and my childs safety. Also called for help. But no one will be admitted against their will, if no physical harm was done (yet).
And my partner turned on me, and made it his mission to make my life a living hell.
My advice is please be care full if you suspect psychosis or so, as the person might start seeing YOU as a threat

Enterthewolves · 16/12/2023 18:30

Dial 111 and press 2 - this will connect you to the NHS Mental Health Line and they can connect you to the Crisis Team. If you are unsafe do call 999.

ShazzyG71 · 16/12/2023 18:32
  1. 999. My DS when he was 14 suffered a mental health crisis and took himself off to the train station at 3 am one day. The police were phenomenal. I couldn’t have been more grateful.
Mrsttcno1 · 16/12/2023 18:32

OP the best thing you can do is call a family/friend to come round NOW and also call 999 now.

Unless he has physically harmed himself or others he won’t be admitted against his will or immediately, and they also are very unlikely to be attend “immediately”. Recent personal experience of very similar saw a 3 hour wait for a response. So prepare now, and make an exit plan for you & the kids or a friend/family member to come mediate now, don’t rely on anyone from 999 police or ambulance being able to arrive instantly.

So sorry you’re going through this

Feellikedancingcrying · 16/12/2023 18:34

Ps I am not saying you shouldnt take any action, but please learn from my shit storm by keeping this in mind. You probably feel like you should stand up to him and protect your family, which you should, but if you are up against someone who experiences a different reality, 'normal' actions are not the way. You need to think 10 steps ahead and look at every step with a suspicious mind. It almost can't be done.

Laiste · 16/12/2023 19:00

Gosh - i hope OP's ok

HowToSaveAWife · 16/12/2023 19:05

If you think you or your children could be harmed, and have nowhere else to go or any other means of leaving, barricade yourselves into one room and call 999 immediately.

Sugarsun · 16/12/2023 19:55

Ring 999

Quite often the police/ambulance can’t actually do anything but they can have a chat to him.

If you’re worried about yours or your DCs safety though then ask the police to remove him but this is just s temporary solution.

If you’re worried about you and your kids could you get a cheap hotel for tonight?

gamerchick · 16/12/2023 19:58

Only the police have any 'powers' if you can call them that these days. Don't hesitate to call them if you feel threatened OP.

Sugarsun · 16/12/2023 19:58

HowToSaveAWife · 16/12/2023 19:05

If you think you or your children could be harmed, and have nowhere else to go or any other means of leaving, barricade yourselves into one room and call 999 immediately.

Good advice.

Keep your phone, charger, bank card and car keys on you at all times.

Leaving the home is safer than staying in it but as the PP said if you can’t then barricade yourself in and call 999.

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