Would you still go?

[Dinoswearunderpants]

Trying to give all info but as short as possible.

My husband had an accident recently which means he can't fly currently. He's at home recovering and can get around OK, cook for himself etc.

We were due to go on holiday for Christmas. All my family as my Dad has been battling cancer this year and it was the trip that was getting us all through it.

I cancelled the trip but my husband was annoyed saying I should still go.

I thought maybe I could go for a few days and return for Christmas. That way I spend time with my family but back with husband for Christmas.

For context we also habe a 2 year old I'd be taking with me.

Would you still go for a few days? Hubby is saying he'd go stay with his Mum so wouldn't be on his own.

I just feel like I'm letting someone down whatever decision I make.

YABU - don't go.
YANBU - Go.

Your DH clearly wants you to go, so go.

He’s told you to go. Unless you are very religious then the actual date that you celebrate is irrelevant. Your two year old won’t know and will love having two Christmases. Go with your family and have a special day with husband and child when you return.

My sister and BIL recently faced a similar situation (my sis in hospital), and she encouraged my BIL to take the kids and go. It was a long awaited holiday for all of them, and the kids needed a break.

They just made she had everything she needed at home, and organised visits from her friends. Fact is, she also managed to rest a lot more at home without them...

Yes, you should go. You get to enjoy some time with your family
He gets to rest & spend time with his mum. Everyone wins, sounds lovely

I'd feel uncomfortable about leaving husband home alone, but he be with his mum, which she will probably love.

Sounds like everyone would have a nice Christmas

He’s happy to spend Christmas without his two year old, sorry but I find that a bit odd and I’d be suspicious.

Go!

There’s nothing odd about it. There will be lots more Christmases and he’s going to stay with his mum.

People get suspicious about the strangest of things on this site.

Oh FFS. The op's father has cancer. Her husband wants her to spend time with him while she can. Don't be so absurd.

He's recovering from an accident. Nothing at all odd about welcoming some quiet time to properly recuperate.

It really depends on how invested you are in 'Christmas'. Not everyone cares about it as much as you.

There's always one. We will travel home on Christmas eve so we'd be together. What on earth could be suspicious of wanting your family to have fun.

Yanbu your dad needs you more

As someone whose Dad is very poorly with cancer at the moment, I say go. Treasure these moments with your father ❤️❤️

He sounds a great husband and father. He wants to do his best for you. Do go