..... to feel a bit of a mug?

[pucca]

My friend, not a very close friend, asked if i would perm her hair, i said yes although reluctantly as i despise perming (i am a qualified hairdresser) so ordered the stuff on my card, which she did pay me back for, but having spent my whole evening doing a spiral perm (which takes longer) she just said thanks and thats it

I most probably wouldn't take anything off her for doing it, although i am a mobile hairdresser, but thats not the point really, she didn't offer me anything and now i feel a bit of a mug to be honest.

So AIBU?

You are not, it's your business, how you make a living and she's exploiting that. She should have asked you how much you charge and given you the money for your time if she wasn't a close friend.

I probably won't say anything but i don't think it will do it again, and me personally even if my bestest friend did this for me, i would buy her something or at least do something.

It has taken me all night, she came round at 8pm and only left at 12.15am.

It's a hard one tbh she may have just assumed that you wouldn't charge as you are friends and thought that when she asked as you didn't mention money it was free. I think it's more of a misunderstanding.

i used to be a hairdresser,and fell into this trap,it really anoyed me,my good friend who is still a hairdresser and godmother to my children still does our hair,i would never dream of not paying,she knocks me some money off though
no you are not

Ohh, you are really nice. My friend teaches pilates, we are very good friends but I'd never ask her for a freebe, it's her livelyhood and this seems wrong.

next time just say you are so busy she would have to book in as a real appointment as your time could be spent on a paying customer,but say "i will do it a bit cheaper for you though ,seeing as were friends" it worked for me and got me out of freebies

Tbh i was thinking of not doing the mobile hairdressing any more anyway, i am too soft and this will sound stupid but feel terrible when anyone says how much do i owe you, i get all as i said i probably wouldn't have taken anything off her anyway but just feel a bit upset that she didn't at least offer.

Wouldn't mind but i never get my hair done, not had it cut for over a year very naughty! lol.

You need a written price list, then you can just give it to them, saves the .

you have absolutey no reason to feel bad it is your livelihood I wouldnt dream of not paying my friend who does mine and my girls hair.

Definately get some price lists made up and say to friends you will offer a discount (10-20% maybe) but dont feel bad about charging, you wouldnt expect a friend who worked in tescos to give you your shopping free so why should you give your services for free.