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AIBU?

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hospital over reacting and wasting our time....

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snowkate · 14/03/2008 23:38

Just had a week from hell. 19-month daughter admitted into obs on Monday with high temps, vomiting and diarohea. She had a chest x-ray and after an exhausting six hours where she got better, we were prescribed amoxilian. The nurses who was speaking on behalf of the dr (well we assumed she was..) said our dd couldn't take the prescription until we got a urine sample. 'We need to confirm whether the infection is bacterial or viral' - if it was viral then she wouldn't be able to take them.

So, next morning I spent 2 1/2 hours with her waiting for her to pee. She doesn't like to do anything out of her nappies and usually gets very upset if she has an accident, so she kept it all in for as long as possible. Finally, when it finally came out, I needed someone to check her nether regions as it was looking sore. Reluctant to spend another six hours at the hospital, we phoned them up and they said that we could see the local gp and drop the urine sample off there. So that's what we did. We saw the doctor and I showed him the prescription and he was concerned that she was prescribed a very high dosage. 'Strong for an adult let alone a baby' were his words I think. I consulted my partner and we agreed to wait for the results to come through as we thought that paederitians were more qualified.

Anyway, Thursday came and I had a call from the hospital. They wanted me to come in. As I am a little hard of hearing, I thought that they had the results of the test and wanted to check her over. No apparently, they wanted another urine sample. Getting pretty pissed I asked them if they had the sample that I sent via the GP. They did, but they need another one. So, on my own, I waited five hours for her to pee.

It was exhausting. No doctor came to examine her. We were probaby taking up valuable bed space. She was obviously much better than she was, but she still had a bit of diarohea and could have infected other children.

Anyway, I got back home a wreck. The next day we had a wedding to go to and I hadn't been able to go to any of the hair and beauty appointments for that day. I hadn't been able to tidy up and prepare and dd was very irritable and confused with the complete lack of structure.

She wasn't herself the next day and we had to leave early which was fine. But I got a scall from the GP later that afternoon telling me that results of the 1st test revealed an infection, but 'nothing to worry about'.

So all that time we spent in that poxy observation room at hosptial on Thursday was a complete and utter waste of time. I have a feeling that they wanted to err on the side of caution so much, that other common sense factors just didn't come into it.

Sorry for this long and winding email...does feel good to get it off my chest.

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NorthernLurker · 14/03/2008 23:42

Sorry but I think YABU - the hospital has taken good and appropriate care of your baby. It's not their fault she didn't feel like producing a urine sample. Also -- being knackered and pissed off when your child is ill is standard - I've just had a week of it with all three of mine and we didn't get any where near a hospital.

Hope your dd is fully recovered soon.

2shoes · 14/03/2008 23:45

yabu

2shoes · 14/03/2008 23:45

but feel for you

Ledodgy · 14/03/2008 23:45

So you are wondering if you are being unreasonable because the hospital were extremley dilligent over your daughter's illness/health and you missed a hair and beauty appointment! Sorry if i've missed the point but imo YABU!

Neverenough · 14/03/2008 23:48

I hope you're DD is better , but YABU-you would be first to shout if the hospital had just sent you home. Your baby's health is more important than as missed hair appointment. Oh and may be you should trust your GP

snowkate · 15/03/2008 07:28

She is much better thanks. Of course hair beaty appointments are not important, and maybe I should have trusted my GP. But it was a confusing and stressful time and we were trying to do the best by our daughter.

At the end of the day when she finally peed,I panicked and most of it went on the floor and only a tiny drop in the bowl and the results were still inconclusive. And because they were v cagey about the results, I just felt like the whole day had been a waste of time, especially when the first sample was fine.

Anyway, it's diff to put full story on here, so I'll leave it as it. I'll probably sound even more like a selfish mum if I bothered.

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elesbells · 15/03/2008 08:11

I can't understand why they didn't use the little stick on bag things to collect the sample - you could have then put a nappy on over the top.

Anyway, you can't blame the hospital for ensuring your daughter was not seriously ill but I understand how frustrating it is hanging around all day.

hope she feels better soon.

SlartyBartFast · 15/03/2008 08:18

we had to go in for the whole weekend, when dd was 18 months.
trying to get blood,
trying to get urine,
all a veyr long and convaluted business.
put on anti biotics in the end when ipointed out her green bogies!

oh and i was getting married 2 weeks later so that weekend was lost as well.

cory · 15/03/2008 09:16

Speaking as somebody who has spent months of their lives (literally) in hospitals trying desperately to get a diagnosis for dd, I can't see what the fuss is about.

If they hadn't tested her and there had been a more serious problem underlying the first infection, would you have accepted that they did right not to want to waste your hair appointment?

I would always be grateful if the medical professionals took time to get to the bottom of a problem. It's when you get secondary problems because nobody bothered to deal with the first that you have something to complain about.

helenhismadwife · 15/03/2008 13:36

all sounds very stressful and worrying but YABU the doctors were right to make sure that what your daughter had was just an infection.

Glad to hear she is on the mend now

BarbaraWoodlouse · 15/03/2008 13:44

Aparantly stick on bags are not in favour anymore. The protocol now is for a "clean catch". I know this having spent many frustrating hours following 12 month DD round without a nappy (her not me. well both actually ) waiting for her to wee.

We finally gave in, used a bag. And the hospital promptly spilt the sample anyway.

YA probably B a little U but after such a frustrating few days I don't suppose anyone can blame you.

Glad she's on the mend

snowkate · 15/03/2008 14:24

I know that it was good of the hospital to err on the side of caution. Just felt I got so little info at the end of it all. By that point she was much better and it was just a waiting game. I got v little info at the end of it and the doctor couldn't understand why she couldn't start taking the antibiotics straight away on the day when she was actually v poorly. Seems like drs have different ways of doing things.

Had a couple of horrid personal experiences in hospital recently anyway which has probably caused me to lose sight of the more important picture - our dd's health.

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