Hate that GP’s judge you as neurotic FTM

[BoyMumma789]

Just back from the GP about my boy’s fever as it’s been over 5 days and there’s been no improvement. Went to GP as per NHS advice online and got asked “is this your first?” and then told to come back in a few days if still not better. I appreciate it’s likely just a virus that will hopefully go on its own but I hate the assumption and judgement with that question.

I had the same experience when he was a newborn showing signs of CMPA. Got fobbed off for months until he ended up with blood in his poo and losing weight and then I was believed.

It infuriates me. Granted not all GP’s are like it but I’ve felt judged by an awful lot! Anyone else or am I being irrationally annoyed?

It’s not helped by the fact that’s everyone else - midwives, health visitors, friends and family, will constantly be saying “best to see GP for that”, “do make sure you ask the doctor”, “better to be safe - if see the doctor about that if it were me”

ime anyway

Same here, makes me so angry! I had this when my second child was very unwell and I knew something serious was wrong. Several Drs asked me is this your first? One Dr even said 'awww you're very tired, here let me try' when she stopped feeding altogether. Turns out she needed open heart surgery and it was exhausting getting anyone to actually listen.
I still get so angry thinking about it!

@Rachaelrachael That’s awful! I’m angry for you!

Next time it happens I’m going to ask “is that medically relevant?” 😅

My daughter is an adult now but I still get angry at the locum who told me I'd learn to not panic when I took DD to see her with ear pain.
I'd given her Calpol before leaving home and while in the doctor's office DD briefly got off my lap to pick up a toy from the toy box. That apparently meant there was nothing wrong with her. GP dismissed everything I told her.

We were visiting in-laws at the weekend and DDs ear drum perforated while we were there, she was beside herself with the pain. The emergency GP there was fantastic though. And had no problem believing me.
Why don't GPs believe women?

I was told to take my child to the gp by the health visitor for some minor ailment. I wasn’t convinced but went anyway. The GP then printed something off the nhs website and then proceeded to slowly highlight the bits he thought I should read. I wanted to punch him in the face he was so patronising. A simple this should clear up on its own would have sufficed. I had already read the bloody nhs website.

Get dad to do medical visits (if around and involved). Bet they wouldn’t ask a male.