To be concerned about this supposed "plea" to help find a DD on Facebook?

[GingerIsBest]

On my local Facebook group, someone has posted supposedly on behalf of her partner. In summary, she's looking for her partner's daughter. Apparently, he's been looking for years. He's been told she is now married but doesn't know her married name. He wants her to know she has a 7 year old sister.... then they provide the name and that she was known to live in the area.

I googled the name and the area and got an IMMEDIATE hit for someone with that name, in the area. Obviously, might not be her. But I bet it is.

I think this is a deadbeat dad who has abandoned his (now adult) daughter year sago and either is claiming he can't find her so the this new partner won't realise what a shit he is OR in the hopes that via Facebook, she'll be pressured into accepting contact from him. Obviously, lots of comments making suggestions to help.

Have I just become too cynical!? AIBU to think this is deeply suspicious and unlikely to be in good faith?

@GingerIsBest I wonder if we're members of the same local group, I saw the exact same thing today.... Second letter a, fifth letter o?

Someone's responded saying that there may be a reason why she can't be found.

Yes, I think so. I saw that response and the response from the original poster. Was tempted to "like it" but decided not to! Quite reassuring I'm not the only one who thinks it's all a bit weird!

Yeah seems very odd that they cannot do a web search themselves if there's someone with that not super common name in the area!

Well, she wants her dd to meet her sister so I'm thinking that most likely she believes her partner and it hasn't occurred to her to google? or if she has, it's either NOT the right person OR he's told her it's not the right person?

I concede that I'm really really cynical as a result of a an experience within our extended family and the reality of what happened vs HIS version of what happened so I tend to get suspicious pretty quick.

Exactly. I never share anything like this unless they're from the police and it's a vulnerable person.

I've had the same with my ex

He walked out of my house,got to the end of the street and vanished

He had been in touch with a sibling but changed his number and blocked everyone on fb

I know he didn't get on with his family (he was the scapegoat in his family and had enough) and I know he just wanted out as he didn't get on with his mum or stepdad

His family have put up many 'have you seen this man?he love him and want him back' Facebook posts and another in a local newspaper-all I had to do is Google his name

People have shared far and wide-its only a matter of time before he's found

Thing Is,he doesn't want to be found-he disappeared because he wanted to disappear-I know him,he would have planned it and will always be on the move now-he'll never settle because he knows they want to know where he is

I do feel for his family to a point but he's a fully grown man who just wants to be left alone

It'll be up to him if he wants to get back in touch with them and if I was him,I wouldn't bother

You don't even know if the person looking is her Dad. It could be an abusive partner or gang related.