My child's dad is abusive. He sees him every other weekend with supervised handovers. Contact started recently. He idolises him. He had santa come and visit him today at school and he had to pick a present for his parents. Only got to pick one. He showed it to me and I just said 'that's nice I'm sure he will love it' secretly feeling pathetically sad he picked his dad. I didn't mention it any more, now son is saying 'sorry I didn't get you a present' and is torturing himself over it, constantly telling me he loves me and wants to get me a present too. All this without me saying a word or showing any signs of upset. I'm not gutted, it's just a pang of 'ouch'. I'm gutted my son is picking up on things. That he's been put in a position where he's had to choose and now he's upset. I'm wondering if I'm doing something wrong or not sheltering him enough despite him knowing nothing about his dad's abuse. No idea what I need from MN but some words of advice or honest truths would be helpful.