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To ask if you would walk out of a job?

29 replies

mrlistersgelfbride · 14/12/2023 10:59

So I posted yesterday about how to keep cool at work. Thank you for the suggestions.

I'm in a new job. I'm very experience in my field however something's happened this morning and I've basically messed up...ruined something that cost £1000. I should be able to do this work easily. But different systems here and I haven't used this particularly item before (I can't go into details as outing).
I don't know how to fix it.
I'm worried the boss will be disappointed. I've already told her but not heard back (via email).
I've let my team down.

The office I work in is cliquey, people loud and chatty but I'm quiet. I am trying to make friends but I've only been here two months. I'm a reserved person by nature.

I miss my old job. I was there 10 years . I was good at it.
I've been having anxiety and sleepless nights in this new role. Have a headache now. I want to eat and drink but feel too stressed.

The job is not even that important or well paid ( obviously though I need the money). I'm so close to thinking, what is the point and just walking out .
I don't think they'd even notice!

Has anyone ever this? It is ever an appropriate thing to do?

OP posts:
Dotjones · 14/12/2023 13:56

I haven't but have thought about it. It'd have to be really desperate for me to do it I think. £1000 down the pan is nothing in the grand scheme of things and the measure of whether this is the sort of place you want to work will come in the form of their reaction. If their reaction is one of understanding what went wrong and working with you to ensure it doesn't happen again, that's fine. If they go off on one at you, that's an indicator it's time to leave.

A thousand pounds is a lot to most people but to a business it's... not "nothing" but it shouldn't be a threat to its viability. Employees make mistakes all the time, the important thing is they don't keep making the same mistakes.

PumpkinSpiceSeason · 14/12/2023 16:06

£1000 is nothing. The pain of recruitment, lack of staff, hiring a contractor- that's expensive.

Fess up and forgive yourself. Figure out what went wrong and come to them about to articulate what you will do differently. That's it.

PumpkinSpiceSeason · 14/12/2023 16:07

Just read what @Dotjones said. Exactly.

Take it from a team lead/ middle mgt and a hiring manager.

SisterMichaelsHabit · 14/12/2023 16:15

You're conflating two different things OP. You're asking if anyone has ever walked out of any job for any reason when what you really need to know is whether you would be unreasonable to walk out of this job under these circumstances.

I think YABU.

Right now anxiety is trying to make you flee. It has turned this small problem into a big insurmountable one. Look up coping methods for it and try to build some into your day. Focus on the here and now. Take one hour at a time (or one minute if you need to) and try and get yourself off the ledge and back into normal functioning.

Your anxiety is telling you to run away for self preservation. It's actually going to be detrimental if you do this.

Get your ducks in a row. Find a new job. Do Whatsapp interviews in your car at lunchtime if you have to. Or at least make it to the end of the day, go home with dignity and don't ever come back. But don't just walk out. Especially if you have to go back in at any point, you'll make it really hard to deal with your next steps and it won't be the end of the situation. People will phone/email you. You might not get paid for the month.

There's so many reasons to get to the end of the day (and the day is nearly over now). Don't give them gossip fodder. Finish the day, take all your stuff home with you, browse new jobs tonight when you get time, and decide whether you're going back tomorrow or not with a clearer head.

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