To be annoyed with partner (porn)

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Cthomas87 · 14/12/2023 03:29

To keep it simple .. we have had lots of sex recently, and he randomly yesterday afternoon (we had lots of fun the night before) says 'i had to watch porn this morning and have a wank I was so horny.

I got annoyed / upset 😡 and he said I was being unreasonable because all men watch it... I just don't know why he had to do it and / or tell me... Am I being unreasonable to get upset?

I'd get it if we didn't.... OR I wasn't experimental etc... but we have so much fun, it really bothered me.

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Homeisintheheart · 14/12/2023 03:35

It's 3.30 am so either this is really bothering you or you're in a different time zone. Either way, kindly, you're being silly, but I can understand why you feel that way.

Often I find the more sex I have the more I want it. It's how I'm built. There have been times when I have needed to sort myself out but I wouldn't share the information as I think the response would be similar to how you're feeling.

Does the porn use bother you? I know my partner watches it but I'd rather not know he does. That's just a personal preference as I don't agree with porn.

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Cthomas87 · 14/12/2023 03:42

It's more the fact he randomly said out of nowhere and then it went round in my head like it was unnecessary and rude to say that

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Homeisintheheart · 14/12/2023 03:55

Is he often that thoughtless? Ask him in the future not to over share - a good friend used to say to her boyfriend: "know your audience" I think this applies here.

DaveDidIt · 14/12/2023 03:58

You will get a mixed bag of answers on here.
Which will turn into a raging debate of all men v not all men, along with the obligatory women in porn are all trafficked and raped.
Personally, your blokes comment wouldn't bother me, but I'm not you.

Josette77 · 14/12/2023 04:03

This wouldn't bother me, but it bothers you so that's the main thing.

Does it bother you that he masturbates? Would it be different if he thought of other women in his head, or would you feel the same?

I have a high sex drive and masturbate most days to porn. I also have a great sex life but I don't live with my partner.

I would tell him not to share these things with you. You aren't comfortable with it and he should respect that.

SweetFemaleAttitude · 14/12/2023 04:32

Either way, kindly, you're being silly

How rather dismissive and patronising.

There is no 'kindly' anything, in your reductive answer.

Catza · 14/12/2023 07:21

What specifically are you worried about? Sometimes it helps to rationalise emotions

ILikeItWhatIsIt · 14/12/2023 17:09

Is it the porn or the wank you're upset about?

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