My Boyfriend and I have been going through a bit of a rough patch recently but we've been trying to work it out.
However a couple of weekends ago he meet a female ex colleague and tried to hide and lie about it.
Ive never given him indication that I would be upset meeting a female friend for a drink ( apprentley to help her with some work related issue ) Ive been completely open and encourage him to see his friends.
However a few things have really got my suspect and I'm finding it hard to look over.
The only the reason I found out was because I went to surprise visit him, I was calling him for a few hours from before I spoke to him earlier and he gave no indication of going out and usually hes talkative about his going out. So he purposely kept it quiet. And ignore my phone calls and messages the whole time he was with her.
Eventually the following day he said he went to buy a new Christmas tree and then decided to meet a friend for a drink...again he is usually very open about what friends he meet but this time he didn't say a name just a friend. I waited for a whole week which he still said a friend in the end he said it was his old colleague. I got annoyed because I didn't understand why he would hide it. He claims it was because of how I would reacts which I know is wrong, I met this woman before and I know he talks to her about work related things.
He says he was sorry and was stupid and drinking that day, but claims it was completely innocent and he just wanted to help her with work.
The thing this still doesn't make sense. Ignoring me and then hiding it has really made me not trust him.
I have been in a past emotional abusive relationship before so I do have emotional scaring but I made it so important to trust my partner. I hate having to doubt and question myself.
Am I overreacting? Im so confused and unsure of myself.
Advice, or Opinions would be great. Has anyone had a situation similar ?