Sad about party

[Tenero2311]

Hi everybody, my daughter is 9 years old , and we live abroad ( I’m from U.K. ) she goes to a school where the local language is not the first language spoken by the kids eg They might speak English or German etc ( so basically they concentrate on learning French ) to get the kids up to a good standard. DD is a very polite and kind little girl , she’s an only child ( ivf ) she is still quite young in some ways , as opposed to some girls in her class who have phones and go to places on their own without their parents. Anyway this morning whilst going to school she told DH that one of the girls in class is having a birthday party today and that the other girls were going but she isn’t invited , even though she gets on with this girl . DD tends to play on her own a bit , but the teacher said she’s not worried as she is friendly and popular . The thing is there’s only ten kids in the class 5 boys and 5 girls . I just feel really sad as she said “ i would have loved to go , but it’s ok ..” she is a bit shy and I do take her to two groups outside school to try and help with that . Hope I don’t sound entitled but I couldn’t leave one little girl out .

Depending on where you are, gender segregation during primary school would be unusual. I.e. you invite your friends, no one cares about gender at 9 years old.
i‘m not from the uk and find this “invite only boys/girls” thing very strange.
She was invited to parties by boys, so my guess is gender just doesn’t play a role.
The birthday child invited 3 friends who happened to be girls. Others invited 5 children who happened to be mixed.

Hi mom. Retired teacher here. I once had a new student, lovely girl, very bright, but she bragged a lot. She told the class about their expensive home, she told the class her mother was a lawyer, she told the class her father was a big wig government official, and he was! She googled him. In her mind she wasn’t bragging, she was sharing. It was her way of trying to make friends. Unfortunately, it didn’t work. She didn’t make any friends but didn’t seem to mind. What she didn’t know is that the majority of the class had a similar background and that kind of talk did not impress them at all. It sounds like perhaps, without intending, your daughter may have rubbed the girls the wrong way. Or, she’s much prettier, much smarter, who knows. Girls can be jealous and mean for silly things.