Fed up

[Zavie]

background : I have Aspergers/bpd/anxiety/dyspraxia

Hi I’m about 8m preg not trying to make an excuse but I ask my parents for help sometimes and they just make me even more stressed

today I asked them to pick up my kids so I can go and collect some car seats for their car as they don’t have any

I arrive home about 40 min later and they still not back said they got lost and didn’t know way from school to my house which is only next village . They are from the surrounding area

I get home and I feel upset as it’s foggy and that means the pollution levels are up which are harmful and I tell them off for not using google maps or making a u turn and going back the way they came.

my dad is a doctor supposed to be the smart one but my mum was driving

I also tell them off for not bringing my lunch box back despite me texting to remind for last 2 days and not using the hand sanitizer I gave them yesterday on my kids before they had their snack in car

My dad said it was rude of me not to invite them in now for a few minutes but I was too upset at their incompetence so now they will have the “right “ to give me silent treatment for a few days.

I also resent myself for not knowing how to fit the new isofix seats I’ve never been able to and they don’t have a clue either

nice things I do to help others just blow in my face

AIBU

It sounds like you are really struggling with things not going the way that you wanted or expected. What does it really matter if your parents were late?

What a mess. I think you need to speak to your midwife and get some support, this doesn’t sound normal.

How many children do you have? Frankly, you don't sound emotionally stable enough to be having more. Where is the father in all this?

This is not normal behaviour, please speak to your Doctor or Midwife and get some support.

I'm inclined to agree. I think you need some support with the way you're feeling.

Take some bloody responsibility for yourself.
Might be a good idea to stop having anymore children as well.

OP, when you do someone a favour, and they throw it back in your face, how do you feel?

Do you not see that is how you treated your parents?

And no, I don't think you HAVE to take it out on other people to avoid internal escalation. I think that's a coping mechanism that is self destructive in the long term, as it'll erode your relationships. You may not value the relationships with your family, but when your children are older will they also be in the firing line?

Get some help, you obviously care for your children - it'd be such a shame to repeat your parent's mistakes.

Those poor children. What on Earth are you having another for if they're already being subjected to this type of appalling attitude? How did the grandparents pick them up without carseats? And why can't you just be grateful they helped? They are not obliged to be your slaves.

Are you the same woman who's abusing her husband?

Stop making excuses! Your behaviour is your responsibility.

I feel you need help. Sounds like you can’t cope with life with two kids let alone another!