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Asking out a colleague?

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Alliwantforchristmasispizza · 11/12/2023 22:56

I was initially with someone else but I'm recently single, trying to move on.
I'm not planning to do anything with regard to this man immediately because I need to heal from the break up first and have time to process things.
On the other hand, thinking of this other guy and having a crush is helping me with the pain of moving on.
I first met him just over 3 months ago but we only really got talking in the last couple of weeks.
We hot desk and get assigned different seats each time, we're also hybrid remote so I only tend to see him once a week.
Anyway the day after the last time I ever saw my ex I ended up assigned next to him, it was the first time I'd properly spoken to him and he was so great to talk to, it really cheered me up.
He could see I was having a bad time and said he hoped we'd work things out and was really supportive.
Anyway it's just a shame I've developed this crush so soon after a break up, it's not ideal..
I know he's single atm, he's a similar age. We're on the same team which isn't ideal, however there's a high probability that I am transferring to another team after Christmas, and he is actually in our team on loan from another organisation so he's also likely to return there at some point.
My manager's wife also works here though on a different team, but they do see each other in passing. A colleague of mine met her boyfriend here, again on different teams but they were sitting together last week.
I've read the policies and it isn't forbidden, it just states that management would have to see about you moving to different teams and that it's more of an issue if one of you is senior to the other, but we're both the same grade.
Anyway I know I'm overthinking all this.. not even sure how I'd ask him or tell him!

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Alliwantforchristmasispizza · 11/12/2023 22:59

It's kind of sod's law tbh, because online dating is brutal and a lot of actually meeting someone compatible is down to luck and timing, so that's why part of me just wants to go for it.

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