To think my gifting game is way off this year

[RudyKazoo]

I’m usually relatively good at finding thoughtful, personal gifts for people (making notes of passing comments/interests/likes etc throughout the year). But recently I feel like I’ve failed multiple times on this front and I’m questioning all the gifts I’ve bought for Christmas. Examples:

Bought a relative something they always loved, only to hear they’ve just stopped using it. Do I still give them the gift even though I know it’ll be no use?

Made a friend a thoughtful hamper of Etsy purchased treats. I spent our usual amount but the present itself looked so small. She went over the top spending more than usual on a gift for me, which was generous (and thoughtful).

Bought a friend a very specific themed gift after a comment he made a while ago. I gave him the gift this weekend and he clearly has no recollection of the comment, so the gift looks very random. He’s a darling so obvs didn’t say anything.

AIBU to question my gifting game, or am I overthinking it and it’s the thought that counts?

Overthinking. You sound as though you’ve bought gifts with care and thought. But being thoughtful means you overthink!

Yea you've got to be careful of those passing comments! People also say things they don't mean - might be looking at a shop window and say 'that's a nice box' just to say something - doesn't mean they actually want it!
But other than that you have taken care and been thoughtful. So carry on and give with good cheer!

I have a work colleague/ friend who always buys me personal gifts that she’s picked up on from chats. She goes to so much trouble it actually makes me feel awful because I’ll buy her a gift of posh hand cream or bottle of gin she likes but they’re off the shelf. I don’t want her to go to so much trouble as I can’t / won’t reciprocate.