To dump him for this?

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I was out with a guy I have been seeing at a ceilidh at the weekend. Through out the night he got drunker and drunker which was bad enough but as the night wound down and people started to leave he was finishing people's drinks and we got thrown out because of it even as we were leaving he was reaching for semi empty glasses of complete strangers drinks!

I made sure he got home ok but I messaged him yesterday saying that I thought it was best if we don't see each other again. I don't even know if he remembers what he was doing but I hate to think he's done it before or would again, it was embarrassing and quite frankly gross and I doubt I'll ever be able to feel attracted to him again. I barely drink at all so I am thinking we probably aren't well matched.

He has been sending me lots of messages begging me to see him but I just don't want to, am I being unreasonable? He does know he was stupidly drunk and that his behaviour was bad.

Eurgh no way, he needs to stay chucked. Block him as well, what a creature 😂 dodged a bullet there mate.

God, YADNBU. Definitely bin him off! Why would you saddle yourself with an alcoholic when you don't have to?

Hard no, you can do better than that.

Run!!!

Not a chance, given that that would also have been his "best behaviour". Unless I was swigging the drinks and getting thrown out with him, I'd accept we are totally not a match!

Block him

I would never, ever, see him again for any reason imaginable. I would also never communicate with him again, and I highly recommend you block him immediately. WTAF is wrong with that man? Talk about a parade of red flags.

Ok I will block him, I feel a bit bad for him but I agree he was probably on his best behaviour and I should probably be glad he slipped up sooner rather than later!

Yuck! I'm not sure I could ever want to kiss him again after watching him gargle other people's dregs. Blergh.

At least you didn't take him for breakfast at Weatherspoons!

That is exactly what I thought!

You're well out of that one. Keep him blocked.

First we have the man who finishes other people's food and now the man who finishes other people's drinks?

I am sure there is a long list of women who came before you who dumped him for the same reason. How spectacularly unattractive.

Some men are gross I guess? At least my one was drunk which is a poor excuse but still hopefully he wouldn't do it sober.

Stay away. 🚩

He has been sending me lots of messages begging me to see him but I just don't want to

you don't actually need anymore reason than that.

I wouldn't be seeing him again. It's a disgusting thing to do, it's the behaviour of a bottom feeder & not someone I'd want to be associated with.

plus just Ewwwwwwww🤮he'd not be putting his mouth anywhere near me!

and Christ alone what else he does...

I wouldn't have told him though, I'd have just kept being too busy. Until he got the message. To avoid all this hassle.

I don't have any problem with people getting tipsy on a night out, but if he was so drunk that he was finishing strangers' leftover drinks and got chucked out of the venue, that would be off-putting for me. I'd be incredibly embarrassed, especially if it was in front of people I knew.

You don't mention how long you've been seeing him, but it sounds like it hasn't been very long? If so, this is still the early stage, at which he should still be on his best behaviour! If you'd been dating him for two years and this was the first and only time he'd done this, I would maybe try to overcome the horror and put it down to a one-off aberration that happened while he was so drunk he didn't know what he was doing - but if he's carrying on like this after only a few weeks/months of dating, then he can absolutely fuck off.

‘Because I don’t want to’ is always enough reason not to see someone again.