To insist he replaces it?

[Farrah233]

My P of many years, our relationship is on thin ice and I don't think we'll be together for much longer as I'm losing tolerance for things like this.

He has very little common sense.

I bought myself a really nice bike 4 or 5 months ago, it was a splurge for me. I also bought a thick heavy duty lock. It stays in the blocks bike storage area.

P occasionally borrows the bike to pop to the shop or wherever. He takes the lock and keys with him.

He took the bike for half an hour yesterday and upon returning didn't bother to lock it up. It has now been stolen. I suspect my thug neighbour has something to do with it but I can't prove anything so the police won't be able to help.

AIBU to insist that he replaces it immediately, even if it leaves him short for Christmas?

Don't accept a new bike for Christmas. He'll go around telling everyone he bought you a lovely expensive bike and they'll think he's wonderful.

How old is he OP?

Of course he needs to replace it.

This might be a stretch, but did your dp have your permission to take it? You could give him a shock and threaten to report him to the police for the bike's theft! Of course you wouldn't, but the threat would make him cough up!

I'd be devastated. I love my bike and I splashed on a lovely commuter one and a huge lock.

I'd really struggle to forgive someone for treating my treasured, saved for belonging with such utter contempt.

This isn't in itself a relationship-ending, you-must-replace-this-immediately event.

He should replace the bike as soon as he can.
You shouldn't have lent him your bike knowing what he is like. Not that it is your fault, but...I take it you're not surprised?

That aside, if you have other reasons as well as this one to want to move on from the relationship, then do that. But don't use the loss of your bike as the fuel for doing so. What else is going wrong?

I wouldn't be holding my breath waiting for him to replace your bike. I think pigs will fly before that happens.

Also, have you considered that he sold it?

If he didn't lock up the bike, what did he do with the lock & key? Surely he should have realised his mistake.

I just don't get why he wouldn't lock it up. And apparently this is the sort of thing he does. Why? We need more info!

To be honest his attitude and no offer to replace is worse than the actual negligence in my mind.

Missing the total point of the thread why would you stay with him if you dislike him so much? If you’re done you’re done? (Sorry it was just the ‘very little common sense’ comment, dh could say the same of me but he never would, I hate hearing people say things like that about their partners