Feeling Let Down or Overreacting?

[marmitencheese]

Left dogs (one special medical needs) in care of adult daughter (who lives away) whilst we went away for two nights; during this time we were having work done in our home, we had made sure she was happy before agreeing to this. Everything was fine…….until last minute she brought her fella and they decided it was ok to leave dogs and house during the day with workmen there and go out for 5 hours, leaving dogs and workmen in house. We have a close relationship with our kids, but this has been really difficult and caused a lot of upset, we nearly flew back after 1 day! Daughter would definitely have done this had she been alone. Are we overreacting?

Is there a special reason they can’t be on their own for 5 hours? That’s pretty standard for a dog. I wouldn’t expect dog sitters to not leave the house.

Did you make it clear the dogs can't be alone or was it obvious like if they need regular checks? For example my initial thought was 5 hours isn't long but I appreciate it depends on the dogs needs.

Also do you know why they went out for a while was it important?

Yes, seems hugely over reacting. Unless you don’t trust the workmen not to steal? Is that your issue?

If she’s an adult this was her call as you left her responsible. YABU to expect others to behave and think as you would, don’t leave if you want things to go exactly your way. How was she supposed to know?

Daughter would definitely have done this had she been alone.

Is there a typo here op? Did you ask your daughter knowing she wouldn't dog sit properly? Or are you accusing her boyfriend of being a bad influence?

Yes it’s a typo, she definitely wouldn’t have left doggies if he wasn’t there - one dog is paralysed.

The dogs weren't alone the workmen were there.
How badly is the dog paralysed? Can it get its own food or walk?

Not enough info.

What is/was the problem with the dogs being left alone with the workmen?

Oh grow up.

Even if you clearly dislike dogs surely you can't be stupid enough not to realise that plenty of other people love them?

So the paralysed dog cant be left, ever?

So the issue is the boyfriend, then. Do you feel he is controlling your daughter? How did the discussion go with your daughter when you found out the dog was left for so long?