Hi all
I shall keep this brief, but just want to know whether I'm overthinking or if my BFF actually isn't that bothered with me. So I'm married with two young girls and when I first got pregnant my BFF let's call her Emma, was the first person from my friends that I told. Emma and I have been best friends all through uni, but she moved abroad so we haven't seen each other since about 9 years now. She was happy for me initially but then throughout the entire pregnancy she barely asked about how things were or even what the gender was. She seemed completely disinterested. In fact whenever we spoke she would focus on her boy drama or whatever. Anyway I had another baby and same thing. Very little interest. She never asked me about them, never asked to speak to them or even see them on video. Recently she came to visit the country and see me for the first time in 9 years and what hurt the most was when she saw my kids she had no idea what their names were and just said hello like they were random kids. Since she met them whenever I mention them she would always say "wait what was her name again?" referring to my daughters. I know for a fact that if she ever had kids I would have learned their names given that my kids are almost 6 years old now. Is that too much to ask? I have people I am much less close to that remember my kids names. Is it unreasonable to expect your best friend to do so? She never once thought to get them a gift. She just seems to not care about them in the slightest. I see all these videos of best friends crying and getting emotional when their besties have babies so this makes me feel like she doesn't care about me and makes me wonder if I should really be considering her a best friend and asking about her and checking up on her like I do. What do you guys think? Am I being unreasonable to expect more from my best friend? Should I find better friends? Or is this just what some friends are like?