Divorce after 14 years

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DH is a kind, caring guy who loves me. But he finds it hard to show. He's autistic and for years I've accepted how he is.

I needed an emergency operation last month and he was so stressed that he totally withdrew. I needed help and comfort from him but he was snappy, forgot things, just fell apart.

A month on I still feel so let down, it's not just one thing but a thousand little things.

I'm devastated but I can't forgive him, even though he can't help it. I've asked for a divorce. How would you feel?

He might not be as “kind and caring” as you say really

If you were thinking of divorcing before, then go for it I guess. If it is this one incident that feels huge and changed how you felt, then you may have an attachment injury, and it might be worth talking to a therapist. Does he understand how much he hurt you and has he apologised?

Do you want to be with him into old age?

The things he says are kind and caring, but not matched by his actions.

I've often thought about it. I actually think he'd be happier without the responsibility of marriage.

I don't think so :(

There's your answer so. I'm sorry.

The thing is being nd cannot be a reason to over look thoughtless behavior. It really can’t and I say that as someone with a nd child. If you have tried to make it work and it doesn’t make you happy you can leave. It sounds like this is the case.

I've forgiven so many things because of the fact he's autistic.

But I can't see me getting past this.

I'm heartbroken.