Suspicious "friends"

[ellie09]

Would you be suspicious of a guy who had female friends who he met through online dating and maybe only chatted online or met once and decided to just be "friends"?

I wouldn't even call these people my "friends" or entertain them on social media.

Some are significantly younger as well, early 20s.

Is the guy your boyfriend?

Definitely a loser of some sort. Not enough information to identify the exact subtype but who cares! 🤷

Think you need to stay away from men on the internet. You seem to attract the wrong one's.

Significantly younger than what?

How is he?

He is 27, I am 30, we met about a year ago.

These are all girls he met before he met me. Some he only met once and theyve just stayed in touch texting etc as it didnt work out, "they weren't each others type"

I just find it a bit odd as I havent stayed on touch with failed dates never mind call them my friends.

They're all around 21/22 years old.

Why are you still with him, if you don't trust him? How many times do posters have to tell you to leave him?

Some are significantly younger as well, early 20s.
He is 27

So, actually not 'significantly younger' at all, then. At most, five or six years younger.

You are clearly not remotely compatible with this man as you have totally different ideas about what's normal. I don't think he's doing anything wrong at all, but you are clearly never going to trust him.

YABU. Just because you wouldn't do the same doesn't mean that he is doing anything wrong. But you're probably incompatible.

I see two scenarios.

Either he's a little lonely and simply adds anyone he dates to WhatsApp or Facebook, and they just 'linger'...

Or he is saying they're previous dates, when in reality they're FWBs etc that he's trying to lie his way out.

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OK, I've just looked at your previous posts about your relationship.

So far:

• You're suspicious about him having female friends he once went on dates with
• You're suspicious about a girl on his Facebook despite the fact that she has a boyfriend
• You think your concerns about the girl on Facebook were definitely validated by the fact that (months after your boyfriend unfriended her at your insistence) she split up with her boyfriend and then met a new boyfriend fairly soon afterwards
• You're pissed off because he was secretly smoking
• You had a massive row because he liked a girl's photos on Instagram
• You think he 'tries to steal your thunder' every time you mention your job, because he always has a bigger example from his own job
• He 'struggles with sex' and 'maintaining and finishing' so you prefer lesbian porn and a vibrator
• You are suspicious of him having Snapchat on his phone
• You're annoyed because he didn't want to do a shift in your mum's shop after he lost his £45K a year job a few days previously
• You don't like the way he talks negatively about a couple of his exes who cheated on him
• You were angry because he had a takeaway with his neighbour after he helped her get back into her flat when she'd lost her keys

These are all issues that you've had with your boyfriend IN ONE YEAR. Honestly, this is fucking insane. You need to leave him because this is beyond unhealthy for you AND for him.

Looking also at your posts about your previous relationships, which never seem to have more than a few weeks' gap between them, I absolutely do not think you should be dating anyone until you've had a lot of therapy to deal with your issues around boundaries, trust, spotting red flags and abuse.