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To really hate describing something as porn?

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Newsenmum · 08/12/2023 17:57

Food porn
Property porn
I can’t think of more right now but there definitely more!

Im not always pearl clutching but to me, porn involves being turned on and ahem dealing with oneself. I do not like this image AT ALL when talking about these subjects. 😅

So, AIBU? Anyone else share my shivers?

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Stresa22 · 08/12/2023 18:00

Sex sells! See also, naughty Santa outfits, sexy elf, it’s all absurd.

AnyFucker · 08/12/2023 18:02

Yeah, hate it

pinkdelight · 08/12/2023 18:03

Poverty porn is another one. I think it's a good descriptive personally and useful shorthand. It doesn't make me think of being turned on and whacking off to it, and indeed a lot of actual porn doesn't have that effect on me either, but you're allowed to not like a term.

CrapBucket · 08/12/2023 18:05

I don’t like the idea of porn being a ‘default cultural reference’, it’s grim.

Decimbir · 08/12/2023 18:08

I don’t like it because it normalises porn, and I don’t think watching videos which may or may not have been consensually made and shared of women who statistically were probably abused as children being violently degraded is a good thing to normalise. Or that it is a good metaphor for recipes or real estate.

bethepeace · 08/12/2023 18:54

Yes completely agree - as someone whose childhood abuse included being shown porn I find it triggering (not the throwaway phrase, the underlying normalisation of the porn culture)

LlynTegid · 08/12/2023 18:58

I don't share your shivers but agree that it is not a term that should be used. People may be, indeed are harmed in a way by a fixation on property, but in no way the same or as badly as porn where women are exploited and abused (or worse).

QuickDraining · 08/12/2023 19:03

It's just like Cockney rhyming slang, something along the lines of they get off on it. Don't overthink it.

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Newsenmum · 08/12/2023 20:14

pinkdelight · 08/12/2023 18:03

Poverty porn is another one. I think it's a good descriptive personally and useful shorthand. It doesn't make me think of being turned on and whacking off to it, and indeed a lot of actual porn doesn't have that effect on me either, but you're allowed to not like a term.

poverty porn! So odd to me.

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Ibizabar · 08/12/2023 20:16

I don't like it either.

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Newsenmum · 08/12/2023 20:16

QuickDraining · 08/12/2023 19:03

It's just like Cockney rhyming slang, something along the lines of they get off on it. Don't overthink it.

But they mean it in that case right? You say oh so and so gets off on being rude to me. It’s obviously not true but you are genuinely saying it turns her on.

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Newsenmum · 08/12/2023 20:18

bethepeace · 08/12/2023 18:54

Yes completely agree - as someone whose childhood abuse included being shown porn I find it triggering (not the throwaway phrase, the underlying normalisation of the porn culture)

I’m so sorry about this.

And with the others, I agree the normalisation of something quite different is a bit grim.

I love to sit there and look through properties and go ooh that’s nice and nibble a biscuit. Not sure that’s how porn works.

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