To find this a weird adjective for a baby

[kookykalki]

AIBU to think these are weird things to say about a baby?
DH will say our 8 month old baby girl is attractive or she has such a perfect bum, cute round bum etc

For context
DH is a dioting dad but he has had one of those adult lives where a baby has never come into his world until now and he is sometimes comically/scarily clueless about babies, he will often try and play with DC like she's much much older etc.

Has society ruined me or is this actually weird?
YABU - it's fine to say this stuff to a baby
YANBU - that's weird to say to a baby

Context is key. I love my baby's bum. It's so cute and round and squishy and DELICIOUS.

Don't eat your baby! 😂

Thanks everyone, I feel better about it all now

To be honest, In this, I think you’re squishy little bot bot is way way worse than his cute bum comment.

thr attractive is a weird word to use about a baby, but it’s one word, and have you yourself have just proven, it’s easy to get it wrong, as you just did.

🤣🤣🤣 love it!

If my partner said 'squshy little bot bot' about either of my kids I would report them to social services 🤣

It sounds like you are policing and micro-managing his every interaction with his daughter, including whatever comes out of his mouth, looking to find fault or ways in which you can ‘instruct’ him.

Some men are definitely less intuitive around small babies, especially if the mum is a SAHP or on maternity leave, so a bit of light direction sometimes (‘I find it’s easiest to do it like this’) is pretty normal. But if you’re hyper vigilant and jump on the slightest deviation, that’s very difficult for another person to live with.

He’s a competent adult who obviously loves his daughter, so you need to let him develop his own way of doing things without monitoring and criticism. And implying that his use of language around his child is somehow ‘off’ or wrong is a bit awful, honestly.

I said in my first post ‘Does your husband have previous form for acting like a peadophile?’ And you responded like you did have suspicions, but maybe you just missed my question. Glad you feel a bit reassured!

He might be just revelling in how amazingly perfect babies are! I remember with our oldest being amazed at his fingers and how they were just tiny little replicas of grown up fingers - he was the 1st baby I'd really had contact with in my defence 🫣 I would often say things like isn't his nose just perfect or aren't his eyes a lovely shape.

To echo everyone else babies do have adorable peachy bums. I miss them being tiny and patting their bums. Eldest is 19 now and definitely would not appreciate a bum pat 🤣

Baby buns are cute and perfect, he is not wrong.

You'll probably find that as they grow older, your husband will find the relationship much more natural. My husband doesn't really, properly enjoy kids until they can talk

Oh no I've called my baby attractive before! It's just an adjective. You can be attracted to people in different ways:
it's not always sexual/romantic.

However, I hadn't spent any time with babies before he was born and I've managed not to be clueless. As you said, you read a book. There's plenty of apps and articles online too.

I’d be more worried about the future of your relationship as you’ve basically accused your DH of being creepy with his own child. You don’t sound as if you completely trust him and I wouldn’t have thought he’d be feeling great after that. Good luck though.

I find that a bit more concerning than the bum comments! Why the fuck would you jump at a baby?!