... to be upset that my sister has totally cocked up her present for my DS's 1st birthday?

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I know I am really because he doesn't know it's his birthday today. But I feel stupidly upset. She bought him some clothes at Boden ages ago and then yesterday when she was wrapping them up realised that she'd got him the wrong size. So she took them back today (but didn't buy him anything else) and decided she'd get him something at an old department store in Ealing (it's not where she lives, she's visiting someone). So she called me to see what I wanted for him and then realised it's now turned into a furniture shop.

I know it's ridiculous but we're really close and I just think it's a bit crap of her Her DS is now 8 and I always get him really nice and thoughtful presents.

How stupid to feel upset. IABU I know.

YAB totally U! (But then you know that.) I know I felt quite emotional around DS's first birthday and I wanted everything to be perfect, so I do understand why you feel a bit gutted about it.

However, she has gone to the effort of at least trying to get him something new (at very short notice). Why not just ask her to get the clothes she originally chose, swapped for ones of the right size? Then relax and enjoy your baby's first birthday, he'll only have one and life's too short to worry about small stuff like this

YABU - she made a mistake.

If it makes you feel better, my brother has only ever bought my ds two presents (one was for his fourth birthday, one for Christmas three years ago). DS is now five! So just be appreciative of the effort your sister made.

YABU I'm afraid - at least she thought about him in advance and did get him a nice present - she just made a mistake...not worth getting in a pickle about ! I bought ds's travel cot at Daniels - weird Grace Brothers type shop !!

YABU, but you know that and you are merely suffering from PFB syndrome . It will pass. And I agree that here was the place to share your grievance and not with your sister. You will be over it by the time you see her.
I was very unreasonably fed up with dsil for booking a table at a restaurant when we thought we were going round for take away. I knew I was being a prat though and two hours later I was really looking forward to a proper night out even though it was more £ than we meant to spend. .

We've just been out for a nice lunch together (me and the DS) and dismayed a woman and her PFB with our BLW antics so I'm feeling much better

I honestly don't know why I got so upset - it's very out of character. I was hoping that someone could shed some light but PFB syndrome seems to be about the size of it

Maybe you're feeling a bit low in other ways (weather? some lurking bug?) and this just was the straw. Or is she the only one except yourself who will be getting ds something so that her present seemed really important. Never mind, we all have days when we feel a bit fragile. No doubt she will get ds something at some stage, and then you will feel really pleased about it.

Have to admit my kids often wait for months for their presents from grandparents and uncles as it seems a waste to spend more on postage than the present is worth.
A more embarrassing confession is that I didn't ring my nephew for his 5th on Tuesday. Some excuse as dd had an op the day before and we were still in hospital, but still not good. But I had left a present in advance- I usually find that's wisest.

He's one years old. He will be happy sucking half a grotty fairy cake and playing with some crumpled wrapping paper. YABU.

YABU. She did buy him a present and when she discovered the clothes were the wrong size, she did try and put it right.

spice - it is not a competition!your ds tried her best and unfortunately things went awry -hey shit happens

deep breath, be objective twice she has tried to get things right Boden and Ealing.what thoughtful considerate sis.think about it, she knew it was wrong size and tried to ammend -thoughtful. hardly her faulty shop location changed