Lip filler

[NicolaC17]

So I recently decided I wanted to try some lip filler and booked an appointment for a few weeks time. I told my husband when I get home and he’s completely gone off on one that I shouldn’t be booking things like that without discussing with him. It’s not the cost, it’s that he doesn’t like anything that looks unnatural and thinks it’s ridiculous to even want it in the first place.

AIBU - it’s my body and I shouldn’t have to consult with him about it or should I be checking before booking as I’m really not sure if I'm in the wrong here.

I had subtle lip filler and loved it. Very few people noticed unless it came up in conversation and I told them out right.

I would have the conversation but keep the appointment and maybe he will change his mind. I do think it’s up to you ultimately.

And you can't stop ME from speaking luv. And I am telling you that you do NOT get to speak for me. Or anyone else. That is a fact. Welcome to real life - hun.

He’s daft and I bet if you hadn’t told him he wouldn’t have noticed. What does he say when you wear make up or colour your hair??

I agree pointless asking here.. Mumsnet think lip fillers = perma duck face which isn’t necessarily the case.

You have every right to do whatever you like to your body. However, sometimes what we might choose to do makes us less attractive to our partner. We then get to choose whether being attractive to them matters more or less than the thing we want to change. If we decide the change is more important, they in turn need to decide if they can put up with it, get used to it, or whether it's a deal breaker. There's not really a right or wrong when it comes to taste and attraction.

I'd like to say it's your body, your choice but my DP has recently shaved off his beard and I hate it so I'm on the fence

It looks very obvious whenever anyone has had this done and it looks dreadful. I can see why he’s upset, but yeah, your choice at the end of the day.

Two of my friends have ruined their naturally pretty faces by doing this (plus Russian lashes 🤢) it is sad.

Lip fillers are fine.

Start with .5ml, don't go for the 1ml even if they offer/suggest it.

Start slow and see how you feel.

Your DH is being unreasonable. This is NOT comparable to a tattoo etc as they will dissolve over about 12 months.

It's not permanent and if you really don't like them you can just get them completely dissolved immediately after anyway.

Mumsnet is NOT the place to talk about lip filler lol. People are are strangely obsessed and filled with anger about it 😂

Thanks everyone - a mixed bag it seems.

So I wasn’t planning anymore than 0.5ml so it wouldn’t be a massive change and I hopefully won’t look like a duck. If I do end to having them done I’ll be sure to post a picture!

It’s a difficult one. It depends on how much it’s going to change your face. Yes it’s your body, but equally you’re meant to be in a partnership with him and part of the attraction between you both is what you look like. If one of you drastically changes your aesthetic the other one might just say ‘no thanks’.

I wouldn’t blame him for expressing an opinion on how he feels about lip filler, he feels how he feels, but the bossy, overbearing ‘you must speak with me first’ attitude would be such a turn off!!

I bow to no one in my conviction that women should do what they want and don't need male permission for any 'work' they want done. But at the same time you have to be reasonable- there is only one person in the whole world who will be kissing those lips, so think carefully before you do anything to them that you already know he doesn't like.

I had 0.25 and Botox there and it made such a fabulous difference

The problem with them is that you can always tell they’ve been done. On the flip side, they’re not permanent. I would have discussed it with DH.

I have 0.5ml.lip filler once a year and botox twice a year.Like fuck would dh try and dictate what I do with my own face.