If you put everything about your child's life online, how protective over your own privacy are you?

Confused38246 · 2023-12-07T12:20:03+00:00

I'm curious to find out how concerned people are with their own privacy and information compared to that of their children. Are you equally protective of both or open book for both or one way or the other?

Wahtnow · 07/12/2023 12:21

I never post anything about my children, very occasionally they happen to be in a photo, but not even photos of "them" iyswim. I probably share too much of myself.

FatFatMary · 07/12/2023 12:30

I’ve never posted a picture of myself or DC online and when other people have I’ve asked them to take it down. I don’t consent to school putting photos online

Historybooks · 07/12/2023 12:33

More protective over my child's info as he isn't old enough to decide. So i have my own pics on fb but not his.

I think lots of people don't think about either.

FatFatMary · 07/12/2023 12:36

Oh sorry I’ve read the question wrong

tryingforasunshine · 07/12/2023 12:45

I don’t agree with it but I also think people just not showing the face are doing that for attention really or to virtue signal. Fair enough the occasional photo where they might be facing away in the background but not deliberately.

If you want to protect their privacy, don’t post them at all. It’s easy. If you are of that mind though I also wouldn’t be announcing the name or actual DOB because information is actually more private than someone’s face I think.

We are trying and haven’t yet fully decided what we will do but leaning towards not posting because there’s no real benefit from it and it should be DC choice when they are old enough to give informed consent about family pictures including them being posted

ManchesterLu · 07/12/2023 13:04

I do think it's become the norm to share things online, however I would keep it to a small, family group chat. Most people won't actually care what your child is up to anyway. It didn't do people any harm in the 90s when they didn't have a blow by blow of what they'd eaten and what came out of their nose.

itsmyp4rty · 07/12/2023 13:18

People worry about completely the wrong things. They obsess over putting their young childs pic or any info about them on their SM or anywhere on the internet. But then they let their child free reign on the internet the minute they're old enough to get their first phone.

No one is tracking down your child from pics on SM - there is a school in every village so there is really no need to try to trace randoms on the internet. What they will be trying to do though is trying to contact kids and teens who are on SM with or without their parents permission - that's what people should be concerning themselves with.

mamabear715 · 07/12/2023 13:21

My kids are older but I don't post about them or about myself, actually..
I understand people's reasons for posting, say, that it's ten years since they lost their parents or whatever - I'm too private to do that. I hug things to myself. Why would anyone else care anyway?

Wishbone436 · 09/12/2023 19:19

I post my kids on my personal page, but it’s set to private & restricted to those I add, which im
pretty strict on. I share my boys as we have family and friends in many different countries, but also because one of my children has a rare disability. I feel that sharing our journey can help raise awareness & hopefully (even in a tiny way) make the world a more accepting place for him

Beachwaves127 · 11/12/2023 08:46

I don’t like social media in general but more protective over my Dc than me. I don’t like photos of me going up without permission either tbf. It’s the parents decision re what goes online for Dc. I’ve had peopel post my Dc without asking first. 🙈

ItAintGonnaGoDownEasyIfItAintCheezy · 11/12/2023 09:09

Unless a kid has a particular reason for no photos, I think some people are ridiculous about this. People see your kid in the street ffs.

ItAintGonnaGoDownEasyIfItAintCheezy · 11/12/2023 09:10

itsmyp4rty · 07/12/2023 13:18

People worry about completely the wrong things. They obsess over putting their young childs pic or any info about them on their SM or anywhere on the internet. But then they let their child free reign on the internet the minute they're old enough to get their first phone.

No one is tracking down your child from pics on SM - there is a school in every village so there is really no need to try to trace randoms on the internet. What they will be trying to do though is trying to contact kids and teens who are on SM with or without their parents permission - that's what people should be concerning themselves with.

This.

Humdingerydoo · 11/12/2023 09:19

I post an occasional photo of the kids but rarely include their faces. I no longer post photos of myself but that's probably mostly because I don't have much to post about! I used to post photos of every single night out I ever had 🙃 in my defence, Facebook was new and I was a teenager. It was the done thing.

I used to not let school etc post photos of my kids but now I've changed it to they can be in photos, just not named and no tags. I did this because I didn't want my kids actively excluded from occasional photos. My child is now all over the school website, which I was completely unaware of! They apparently had a photo shoot with a few of the kids last year and now he's the face of after school clubs and a couple of other sections. He finds it hilarious.

LilySLE · 13/12/2023 06:44

@tryingforasunshine there are lots of reasons to post without faces. It prevents photos being found on a reverse image search. It prevents the photos of your children’s faces being taken and used for other purposes (including on the dark web).

Ploctopus · 13/12/2023 06:49

ItAintGonnaGoDownEasyIfItAintCheezy · 11/12/2023 09:09

Unless a kid has a particular reason for no photos, I think some people are ridiculous about this. People see your kid in the street ffs.

I read an article about a woman whose pictures of her daughter had been edited into images of child sexual assault and sold online. She has been trying for years to get them removed, but without success. It scarred me so completely that I’ve never posted my child‘s picture online!

You’re right of course that anyone can see my child in the street, but it doesn’t pose the same risk of stolen and doctored photos.

Vvvvvvvvv · 13/12/2023 06:53

I post my child fairly often on my social media, but usually innocuous things, never private info etc. Also, my social media is very private. I only have Instagram, nothing else, and even then I only have 49 friends - all of whom are either family (32 of them in fact) or friends I see in day to day life who already know myself and my child well. I think of it as a giant WhatsApp group to be honest. I disagree profoundly with these influencer parenting accounts who share every single aspect of their child's life, open to be abused by followers etc. I also don't understand why people who aren't using Instagram etc for money have their profiles as public, and post photos of their children, it seems insane!

MamaGhina · 13/12/2023 06:59

I remember seeing an interview on tv from some parents whose friend had seen a photo of their child online and turned it into a meme, which went viral. They were really upset at the time. It was then I decided to keep all photos of my children off social media.

Sorry for the shit link but it was years ago now.

https://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/2014/08/14/mood-swing-meme-how-a-mum-s-photo-of-her-grumpy-toddler-went-viral_n_7327068.html

Mood Swing Meme: How A Mum's Photo Of Her Grumpy Toddler Went Viral

https://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/2014/08/14/mood-swing-meme-how-a-mum-s-photo-of-her-grumpy-toddler-went-viral_n_7327068.html