To go to annual girls xmas night?

[ellie09]

Hi all

I've had a really nasty cold since Monday which has got gradually better but still there slightly. Nose blocked, nausea, cough.

Our annual girls xmas night is being hosted by one of the girls that has had a baby a fee months ago. I hadn't told any of my friends I have bern sick in case it went away relatively quickly (as most colds do!)

Anyway, the host has went out of the way to buy a lot of party food, prosecco and even bought us all matching PJs.

However, I have my doubts about going as I am still only about 50% better than I was and wouldn't like to spread germs to a little baby.

Do I:

See how I feel by tomorrow and if not significantly better, tell them I cant go and reimburse the host the money on the pjs etc?

Or

Suck it up and go anyway due to the effort theyve put in. Just keep distance from baby and carry the sanitizer etc with me for hygiene?

I don't see these friends all together often -maybe 3/4 times a year and I was really looking forward to seeing them.

Talk to them, explain the situation and let them help you decide.

They will be the ones who deal with the cold if they get it, they should be the ones who choose.

As someone who also recently had a baby, I would personally advise you not to go. They won't thank you for getting them poorly whilst they have to look after a very young baby and a baby of that age doesn't have a fully developed immune system so he/she would be more at risk. I think it would be more considerate of you to the family to sit this one out just in case, or else call them up and let them know the situation, see what their response is so you can have a clear conscience either way.

Don't go, contact the host today, I am sure who will be understanding.

Ask the group how they feel but by day 5 of a cold you shouldn’t be too infectious anyway and frankly there are winter viruses everywhere at this time of year.

By tomorrow evening you could be feeling much better again. Obviously stay away if the group ask you to but if you are almost better and use the sensible precautions you describe I think you’ll be fine to go.

I have a newborn and would be really grateful if you didn't come. My little one was given a nasty cold at just two weeks because a family member selfishly came over full of cold with no warning. I felt really upset she had put us in that position.

Absolutely, I would be furious if someone made my baby unwell also.

As far as I am aware, the dad was going to be with baby upstairs whilst we were there, but I don't want to bring germs into the home.

I will let them know today the situation and tell them I will let them know if I am feeling any better by tomorrow and then leave it in the host's hands to decide if they would still like me to go.

Thanks everyone - not sure if I was making a fuss because of a cold or if I was valid for having my reasons for not going.

I will let them know today the situation and tell them I will let them know if I am feeling any better by tomorrow and then leave it in the host's hands to decide if they would still like me to go.

Ooh this is tough though as some people would feel obliged to say it's fine for you to come out of people pleasing / not wanting to make things awkward etc but actually feel really anxious about it and not want you to come.

I know people will say that it's not your fault if people don't say how they really feel but it's something to take into consideration - you know your friend best.

Nausea too? Oh god no OP, that's so not on.

Yeah I didn't say I was going, I have serious doubts, hence the thread.

I wanted to know if I would be unreasonable to cancel last minute by tomorrow if I am still not feeling great.

Let her know today.
Put the ball in her court whether she wants to take the risk. You may still be infective even though you feel ok tomorrow.

Don't go and don't put the host/group on the spot to make the decision.