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What is the Other Version of You doing in a parallel universe right now, and what is their life like?

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Slidingdorz · 06/12/2023 18:02

Daydreaming and thought it would be fun to see other takes on this from other people.

Me in the parallel universe : didn't get chronically ill in adolescence. Had boundless energy. Moved to London and had a really exciting successful career in advertising for a few years, then went back to art school. Now enjoying an interesting life as a painter with a rich social life full of friends. Beloved family members are still alive, and cos I'm super healthy I could have a child, a daughter. In the parallel universe right now I am preparing to open my latest show tomorrow and choosing an outfit Grin

What about you? What's your alternative story?

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Benibidibici · 06/12/2023 20:04

She didnt have 3 miscarriages. All her babies are cuddled around her like kittens.

She somehow wound up living 5 mins from her sister instead of an hour and a half away, and the kids are like siblings.

Shes a good stone, stone and a half thinner!

brawhen · 06/12/2023 20:04

One of me stuck it out in her corporate London career, made partner, and is now a wealthy, successful Londoner and is on a couple of boards (we'll have one charity, one FTSE) as well as doing consultancy work. She's very well dressed, though not flashy. She enjoys all the rich experiences of a varied London life.

Another one of me married such a person, and gave up full time work (maybe all paid work?) after having children as he was able to keep the family in a great standard with his fantastic salary earned in a 9-5 manner. She is a healthily attentive parent while also doing supportive community things, reading good books, and joining her handsome husband for interesting nights out with his varied friendship circle. I think she probably has a housekeeper.

I love checking in with both of them :-)

shellyleppard · 06/12/2023 20:06

Sending you a big hug and hand hold x must be an incredibly worrying time for you x

SalmonWellington · 06/12/2023 20:08

@TakeMe2Insanity Here's to Future You with baby at home and on a blissful maternity leave.

I'm not sure what Other Me might be doing. Am not wildly rich or successful, but I like my life. Might stick with this one.

Benibidibici · 06/12/2023 20:08

My 3 week old isn’t in NICU hes at home; we’re snuggling in the living room, friends have been to see him, we’ve taken him for walks in the pram, hes been in the car, I wake up in the night and hes next to me.

Hugs. Been there. Next Christmas you'll tuck him in his own bed & watch him sleep and the hurt now will be like a foggy memory

Sandiegodreaming · 06/12/2023 20:10

The other me is a travel writer and off exploring the world and it's cultures. Unfortunately the real me sits behind a PC all day.

ChickaboomZoom · 06/12/2023 20:17

The other me is a successful novelist who owns a stunning home that backs onto woodland. She doesn’t have a fear of flying so she can travel freely and often visits her home country to swim in the ocean. She still has 4 amazing children but her eldest has never had to spend many months in hospital fighting for his life and is a happy and pain free teenager.

She is also married to a man who can cook and gives incredible massages.

She also has 3 cats.

Ardith · 06/12/2023 20:17

She didn’t break up with the wonderful man she loved at 18, just because he lived far away. They’re now married with four children, he’s a doctor so she didn’t give up work to sahm, instead she is a successful barrister. They live in a rural cottage near a market town. At weekends they go bike riding and folk music concerts.

plumtreebroke · 06/12/2023 20:19

Several of the other me died young, I had a few really near death happenings (terrible car crash, near fatal ectopic, horrendous other accident). hopefully also a lot of different me have better lives also. Current me OK

Hiddendoor · 06/12/2023 20:20

I'm either living as an artist on a rugged coast somewhere, or living in a beautiful city centre tenement flat. Both versions have four children, a wildly attractive husband and an exciting and fulfilling social life. And I have a cleaner.

AllAroundMyCat · 06/12/2023 20:22

ghostyslovesheets · 06/12/2023 18:13

She’s married to James Purefoy and owns a horse!

No! He's married to me and he's a senior MI5 bod and I'm an artist .
How dare you!

CheshireDing · 06/12/2023 20:23

There are many career alternative me’s - the Interior Designer who ignored them saying there was no money in it, the Cabin Crew who ignored them saying I had to have an A in Maths, the one who went to University, the one who finished her English A Level

She would be living with acres of land, no mortgage, time to read books, whilst also
living close to the sea. Single but with some handsome fwb’s

Chocoswirl · 06/12/2023 20:26

The first other me went to Cambridge university. She met a lovely man there, got married and has three children. She’s living far from home though, which is hard. She writes children’s books in her spare time now the children are at school. She lives in a lovely house with a garden and a bay window and she is considering getting a dog.

The second other me had a mental breakdown during the pandemic, quit her job and went home to live with her elderly mum. She’s rather depressed and I’m glad I’m not her.

Wondering17 · 06/12/2023 20:29

Ooh this is good - the other me is completely bilingual rather than speaking one parent’s language to mother tongue standard and the other well but sounding like a foreigner. This would mean that I was completely accepted in the other country instead of being looked at like this when I speak 🤔.

Reading that back it sounds a little not that important but I love the other country and want to belong.

The other me picked something different at university and got a good degree instead of what actually happened.

She was more ambitious and self-confident - and is now a classical musician, or writer or photographer (!)

She didn’t marry my horrible ex but did have my lovely dc.

She wasn’t so shy either.

Her Mum is still alive and enjoying being a grandma to her kids.

She started pension planning from a young age.

She lives near extended family and has lots of friends.

I am sorry for anyone currently going through difficult things.

EnjoythemoneyJane · 06/12/2023 20:30

Elvis1956 · 06/12/2023 18:18

I am in "import/export" think del boy. Spent a few months in prison for receiving stolen goods. Have a high income, children went to private school, good uni with no student debts. Married very early. Holiday home in France. Work 70-80 hours a week and have a drink problem

😂 brilliant

KohlaParasaurus · 06/12/2023 20:38

"Just because I COULD doesn't mean I WILL," she said when pushed towards a degree course that would lead to a professional career, and she wrote, and wrote, and after having had a few impeccably written novels with bad plots and unconvincing characters rejected she found her way into the other side of the process and became editor in chief at a major academic publishing house. She learned several languages to a high standard, travelled widely, had lots of companions but never married, and didn't have any children. At home, she kept a minimalist house and a fabulous maximalist flower garden.

Tommalot · 06/12/2023 20:39

The other me stayed with my depressed wealthy DP, instead of running off with the hot but unstable (and it turns out debt-ridden) new guy. As a result, I live on a luxury flat in London, go on fabulous holidays and have a great wardrobe, but am mostly as miserable as sin. DP goes on to have numerous health problems and I end up as his carer. We still don't have children and MIL drives me mad with mentioning it at every opportunity. Constantly being compared to BIL much to our resentment. My career doesn't develop as much and I don't seek therapy.

Think I prefer being poor and happy as I am now...

CavalierApproach · 06/12/2023 20:47

The other version of me does not have DC but does have a flat stomach, relatively firm norks and possibly a bijou city apartment with elegantly clashing patterned wallpaper and a good people-watching view.

(ETA: in this universe, the DC are beloved and just about worth the stomach/norks sacrifice 😁)

Girasoli · 06/12/2023 20:50

The other me didn't move to the UK as a child and stayed in Italy...I think my life would be similar (probably married with a couple of DC and a standard office job) but with more skiing and hiking and also more cooking. I'd also have a vegetable patch.

Doyouthinktheyknow · 06/12/2023 20:50

The other me is a hippy off doing something really enjoyable that pays very little but who cares when life is fun. Probably in rural Wales or the Lake District.
Even the alternate me isn’t especially adventurous but I would hope much happier off the treadmill.

evryevrytime · 06/12/2023 20:51

TakeMe2Insanity · 06/12/2023 19:55

Oh thats easy.

My 3 week old isn’t in NICU hes at home; we’re snuggling in the living room, friends have been to see him, we’ve taken him for walks in the pram, hes been in the car, I wake up in the night and hes next to me.

I packed away his pram and car seat this evening just for my own sanity. I want to wake up from this hell.

I'm so sorry to read this. I'll be thinking of you. ❤️

Girasoli · 06/12/2023 20:52

I'd like to keep my same DH and DC though so in my parallel universe he could have done an placement year in Milan and we could have met there.

LovedMyLastNameItHadToGo · 06/12/2023 20:53

The same life but not the same chronic health issues.

Youthinkyoureuniqueyourejustastatistic · 06/12/2023 20:53

In my alternate reality we all took Covid seriously in January 2020 and the pandemic sort of burnt out like SARS1.

Everything else is the same.

Mummadeze · 06/12/2023 20:57

There are two other me’s…. One went down the full route of self destruction instead of dabbling in it and died way before her time. The other became a successful drama commissioner at the BBC and then went on to write a bestselling novel that got turned into a movie. She moved to Beverley Hills and married a US hiphop artist.