DC’s dad left me when I was 7 months pregnant. He literally refused to speak to me and said I was a nightmare to be with (the only thing I can think is I was v anxious in pregnancy), didn’t want to know me or dc and that if I wanted financial support to go to cms.
That was two years ago. I did claim cms. He always paid.
I know 100% he has not been in a relationship in this time, he did not leave me for another woman (not that it makes it any better!).
So dc turns two last week and he suddenly says he wants to see her. I agreed. Had no idea how to approach it but always said I would never come between them. He turns up with wrapped gifts for dc (fine, I get that) but then also a gift and card for me and flowers. No explanation. I said it was inappropriate and he said I didn’t need to accept them. Obviously as dd was there we couldn’t talk and I sort of regret meeting him without forcing him to speak to me first because in all these years I’ve never had answers. I am in a new relationship (early days). He doesn’t know about my personal life. But part of me now wants to ask what the fuck? Why did you do that to me? He’s already asked to see dd again and I have agreed but I don’t think I can sustain this without asking these questions. I spent a long time feeling so confused and angry and now he suddenly does this? Close friend says to leave it and not ask, keep distance etc. But I feel angry I have to play along now he suddenly wants to be involved?