Becoming an issue now DH has now said on one than more one occasion that I shout at my DC. He refers to an incident witnessed by BIL when I asked DC 'to get into car quick as we need to go!' said BIL was concerned but not sure what the concern was about. I checked back with DC as I def do not remember yelling apart from saying 'get in quick!' DC fed back and said I did not yell.
DH has now said its getting annoying, saying things like us three ignore you when you start making demands, this all you do etc. I feel most of the time I really don't as I have acted on previous observations. I can make demands ie put clothes away, no phones, pick up shoes etc and can demand quite a few times as DC do not always act when asked. I feeling anxious about this, feel I am being shut down and now am thinking twice when asking DC to do things or give them telling off. I work, study, do most of the domestic chores cooking etc I have a challenging teenager, money worries etc, I can get stressed at times (menopausal) but don't think its the same picture as DH paints. I really feel like going away on my own for a few days to sort my head out but then don't want to be accused of being a neglectful mother.