OK my first post in here, and I do think I'm being unreasonable so I'm more looking for advice on how to put things behind me than condemnation of my feelings.
I miscarried our first pregnancy at 9 weeks last September whilst on holiday. Because we didn't know or understand just how damn common it was to miscarry your first pregnancy I had honestly believed that being pregnant meant having a baby so we had told parents and siblings.
When we lost I told my parents who passed on the sad news to my brothers. A few weeks after getting back there was a family party that we (living 200 miles away and feeling shitty) didn't go to. One brother ended up very drunk.
The next week I emailed him saying 'Hi, how are you, has your hangover gone yet...'
This was my first contact with this brother since m/c and his response was appalling, not even a 'Hi, how are you?' let alone a 'Sorry about the way things have turned out' just a very annoyed response because I had been told by our mum that he had been very drunk.
I just feel incredibly let down. My other brother and his wife have been fine and gently caring, but with this brother I just feel he doesn't care. I don't expect lots of fuss, just not a total disregard of our loss. Particularly when, after he left his partner and young baby a few years ago I was there for him, on the end of the phone every other night for long conversations about how he felt etc.
I haven't felt like I can deal with him since, he was away at Christmas so didn't need to. Now faced with Easter looming I feel will have to deal with him because its unfair to expect my parents to deal with my upset by refusing to visit at Easter.
I know I'm being unreasonable because its such a small thing. So how do I face up to Easter and move myself on?