My Manager has behaved, I think inappropriately/ unprofessionally on a number of occasions. The job doesn’t suit me (although maybe it would if I, and the rest of the team had been managed and he hadn’t behaved like this).
I started documenting his behaviours in the last 6-9 months or so as it’s lots of small behaviours rather than anything big and it had gradually bought up red flags. So here’s a snap shot:
- When I’d returned from sickness asking, during a team meet in front of 10 others, what I’d been off with and if I was better (then not following up with a return to work meet: paperwork).
- asking me to book in a meeting with others for us then when it came round to it, in front of others, asking “well why am I coming out to that?”
- leaning in inches from my face for a few minutes during a works night out (I ignored this and carried on speaking with others) .
- staring at me when we first met.
- turning up to a meeting we’re both at- staring at me when first coming in the room. Then afterwards just me and them standing within inches of me and brushing/touching my arm until I took a big step back.
- within a few months of starting the job I said “I don’t really know what I’m doing” and he said you’re fine and finished the call.
- Phoning: texting me a few times about work/ non work things- including one long text about how I must do certain things at work. On my non working days on my personal number. This stopped after I pointed out it was my NWD.
His behaviours make me feel uncomfortable, unsupported etc. the job has been mainly remote with a meeting around every 2 weeks until the last few months. Every now and again I need to do a meeting one to one with him to visit a client and I’m at the point now where I just want to avoid him… this will
obviously impact my ability to do my job.
Im on the lookout for a new job but really conscious that this guy may well make others feel uncomfortable (there’s a weird feeling in the office etc) and once I leave may continue to do so. I will add that I’ve never had a work situation like it in 18 years of working in different industries.
also what would happen if I raise these issues (public sector organisation), how would you raise them and when (now or on handing in your notice)? I will add that I have monthly one to ones with my managers manager and if I ever raise anything (e.g. I think the training is lacking which I have raised) who keeps asking “is there anything else?” And anything managery seems to be going via her in the last few months which makes me think that something is going on….
So YANBU - report behaviirs
YABU- making something out of nothing/ what’s the point? Etc?