DH has a group of friends who he’s known for years and who meet up in various places every other month. They’re a nice bunch. They usually go away overnight on the Saturday, back lunchtime Sunday. Sometimes a sports event, sometimes another activity, sometimes just food and beers. I’m fine with that, and he reciprocates with childcare when I go away with my friends.
When he gets back, I always ask how the wives of the friends are and all I get back is “oh, I don’t know” or “yeah, fine”. I don’t think he asks. I ask how one of the friends is doing in his new job and get a similar response, or it’ll be something totally random - I once asked, and he started telling me what an amazing coffee machine one of them had at their office.
On a slightly more serious note, a few years ago we lost a baby in early pregnancy. DH was devastated about it. When I asked if he’d told his friends when he met up with them next, he said no - they weren’t aware of the pregnancy, and he met up with them to take his mind off things.
I don’t have any problem with any of this but I am genuinely interested to know what they talk about! Is this normal?