Been separated for under a year. Two primary aged children. It's his year to have the children for Christmas Day. We have a good-ish Co-parenting relationship. Sometimes he gets annoyed that I don't tell him everything about the children, I think he should sign up to school emails, WhatsApp etc so he can hear it for himself! But not huge rows or anything. When I pick them up from his I generally come in and have a coffee, stay for a bit. His living situation is important for this situation.
He lives in a house share, but was planning to stay at his mums for Christmas and have our kids. They don't have room so ex, kids will all sleep on the living room floor. Ex FIL is also slightly intolerant of them being there for long amounts of time. I don't blame him, they're annoying and will be very excited.
Basically the kids don't want to sleep on the floor, they also don't want to be away from me. Ex won't come to ours, and I don't want to blur those boundaries by having him back in the family home.
Would I BU to rent a home near in laws where ex and kids could sleep? I could come over in the morning and see them open presents, I could then go on to have my Christmas dinner as planned.
I think if I suggest this, he will agree but he might get the wrong idea that we're all spending the Christmas Eve and the next day together again. Will it confuse the kids to see us both on Christmas morning?