To consider this?

[icepole]

My niece is currently camping in my aunt’s living room as she was removed from her mother who drinks. Her dad, my brother, says he is trying to get appropriate accommodation to take her on but nothing much is happening and I don’t see that changing. It’s been months. My aunt is elderly and unwell and doesn’t think she can go on with the current set up.

I have started to consider if we could have her. She’s a lovely girl and no one seems to want her. Reasons to hesitate are - we have two dc, one with asd. Could be hard for them. I have health issues and when they kick off I need a lot of rest. House is small, we have a box room that is currently an office we could convert for her but wouldn’t be a lot of space. Her parents are both difficult to deal with. I currently don’t interact with either of them and don’t fancy inviting that chaos into my life.

Obviously there’s much to consider, it’s hard to step back and see clearly when it’s family. I don’t want to make things worse for her or us. I don’t want her to be left in her situation.

"You all sound awful."

That was a terrible thing to say. So lofty yet so wrong. Not harsh...wrong. The OP is trying to help.

Agree with those saying to integrate her gradually to a) take pressure off of your auntie and b) to see if it's feasible long term. My own parent was taken in by kinship carers and it wasn't perfect, but it was better than foster care for them and their situation.

You aren't awful @icepole - don't know why PP said that. You're one of the few people worrying about your niece, it seems.

Poor kid. And her piece of shit father went on to produce more?

People seem to be blissfully unaware that we are talking about a child. A 10 year old girl. She’s got a drug addict father who doesn’t want her snd drunk mother. She’s very very vulnerable. SS don’t remove dc from a mother for small reasons. This is a mega problem for this child.

She’s sleeping on a camp bed with a relative who cannot manage and obviously does not want her. Truthfully, neither does the OP. We also know that dc who are passed around like this and end up in care are also like to make poor choices themselves later on. This is very much a case for a stable family to intervene. I’m not sure there is one and for this child, it’s a tragedy.

No one is blissfully unaware. Stop patronising us.

You all sound awful

The fact that you actually took the time to type that, to a concerned relative asking for help with this child's situation, tells us exactly who is an awful person. It's not the OP.

Fucking hell @TizerorFizz have a word with yourself.

OP is not responsive for her wider family and is trying to make a reasoned effort to support her niece. You, in the other hand, are being a nasty keyboard warrior. Sure , it's easy to be perfect when you arent actually dealing with the situation. You sound emotional and frankly ridiculous.

For your own self respect, I suggest you report your own posts to mumsnet to remove so that you can save a bit of face and not have your username tied to such ridiculous statements

Really? I suggest you do some research. Report away.

Do some research? From the very person whose knee-jerk self-important post wrongly insulted a stranger.
Own your gaff or sod off.

Or at least wait until you know, before dishing out the shit.