Should you always listen to your gut?

[justponest]

The strangest thing - been on 3 dates with a man I met OLD. No red flags via messaging etc. First two dates were nice. Third date lasted a bit longer (day out) and I have had an almost animalistic, stomach turning gut feeling that he's not a good guy/something is off.

I have absolutely no proof to base this on. He acted absolutely fine on the third date. But this gut feeling has came out of nowhere and I can't seem to shake it. Whenever I think about him now I just get this feeling of doom and bad energy. I've had gut feelings about people before but never this strongly. It's almost like I'm repulsed suddenly but seems to be for no reason.

Am I being bonkers? Or could there be something behind this?

Safe to say I obviously won't be seeing him again.

Always always always.

A lot of people who have had run ins with serial killers say they get the same feeling.

Your body is picking up on something.

Whenever I have exercised objectivity over subjectivity it has ended badly.

Not always, but in this situation, definitely!!

ALWAYS.

No doubt about it, extricate yourself asap.

Yes always! Gut instinct is there for a reason, to help keep you safe I believe.

Yes

Always. I’d rather be wrong and safe, than find myself in trouble for denying my feelings.

What does this mean? Sorry I'm dumb 🤣

Yes, it's your instincts and they're rarely wrong

100 percent trust your gut feeling.

Yes I have a daughter so can't mess around with this so definitely going to follow my gut. But it is so strong and honestly seems to have came from out of absolutely nowhere. So strange.

No, sometimes that feeling can be set off by things that are nothing to do with them being bad people, but in this situation I would. But your feelings can also pick up on things that are really problems.

I'd not be an asshole about it, since you really aren't basing it on anything objective, but I'd listen to my feelings. Anyway, there is not much point seeing someone who is creeping you out.

There are situations where you need to be careful to be more objective, because it's a justice issue.

Yes, trust your gut - unless you have a 'gut feeling' someone is perfect for you, because your gut feelings are designed to alert you to danger, not to good things. Well done on going with your gut with this one.

We pick up so much that we aren't aware of - your unconscious doesn't miss a thing, and your gut is its way of communicating danger. so nnot really strange, although it certainly can feel like it is when it seems to come 'out of nowhere'.

@justponest simply put, trust your gut. My comparator is hiring new staff. On paper they have it: competencies, quals, answered the questions right, scored highest at interview. But something I can't put my finger on rings an alarm bells . Every time I've ignored my gut, it has led to trouble.

100%.

Definitely trust your gut. We have instincts for a reason.

Always? No.

Usually? Yes.

Yes, when it comes to people. Trust your subconscious mind which is clearly trying to communicate something to you!

Absolutely trust your gut , its a gift to have this perception , it has not failed me yet.

About what will happen in future: No.
About how you feel: always !

Your instincts are there to keep you safe. A part of your brain is always scanning for danger. If your threat system is activated, it will be as a result of tiny signs and signals that your conscious mind hasn't noticed, but your subconscious has spotted and sent your body a warning to beware. The signs will have been there. You just didn't consciously notice them. Always trust your gut!

In this kind of situation then yes, go with your gut feeling. There is no point in going any further with this man when you feel this way anyway, even if he’s perfectly decent.

Always tell your brain to listen to your gut, but trust neither on their own.

Yes, this happens for a reason. It's your brain & body's way of keeping you safe.

Every single time in life, (usually trival stuff), that I didn't go with my gut I have regretted it.